The monastics are known for offering a vow of silence. This does not mean that they can never talk; it means they are quiet most of the time, with set hours for them to speak. The goal is to tame the tongue, listen to God, and remove the distractions that stand in the way of their spiritual growth.

Recently, I asked my most trusted advisor about a situation in my life. They responded directly, “You could save yourself a lot of trouble if you learned to keep your mouth shut.”

It hurt a little to hear that, but I know they were correct. I don’t know how to shut up at times. I get started talking, and there seems to be no off switch. I say things that are overly honest, too direct, or come off as harsh. I don’t mean to do it, but the more I talk at times, the worse the situations in my life become.

One commitment I am making to end this year and start next year is to shut my mouth more. I need to listen, ask questions, and learn to be comfortable in the silence. I would not call it “a vow of silence” per se, but it is an opportunity to grow as a person who wants to be more like Jesus.