There are several families under my leadership who are currently struggling in ways that very few people know. They are not people who post everything on social media; in fact, for many of them, the idea is repulsive. The mindset is that they would rather suffer in silence.

Several reasons exist for this situation. Some of it is pride, and people do not want to risk the embarrassment of letting others know. Another reason is the fear of being judged by respected members of the community. Still others feel utterly alone in their difficulties, and that no one else could possibly understand what they are feeling.

The biggest reason people do not know what others are battling is a lack of real connection. Church people will often settle for being a part of a community where they “know everyone” without developing genuine relationships. Sure, in general, the people of the Church will show their support and pray for others, but we need something more. Each of us needs 4-12 people in our lives with whom we can talk about anything. We need a circle of friends where we can not only pray but also confess. A group where we can cry and share our darkest struggles without fear of judgment or gossip. Every believer needs the support of people who remind them that they do not have to fight alone.

I am praying for the people who are fighting these private battles. I ask God to give them strength, courage, peace, and the power of the Spirit so that they will get through these dark nights of the soul. I am also asking God to help them connect with other believers.

Battles are coming for all of us, and the Church is here so that you do not have to fight them in silence.