In my last post I shared how I keep list after list so that I do not forget the things I need to do and the experiences that I have each day. They are a powerful tool I use in my ministry.
I want to flip that thinking for a couple of minutes. Paul wrote an interesting statement in his letter to the Corinthian Church. It is in his description of love found in 1 Corinthians 13. In verse 5 Paul states that love “keeps no record of wrongs.”
In other words, keep a list of the good things that happen to you but do not keep a list of the bad things. If keeping lists help you to remember then not creating a list will help you to forget.
One of the biggest struggles that we have in our relationships is that we forget the good and keep track of the bad. What if we flip that over? When couples come into my office for marriage counseling, many of them can tell me in detail the times they have been wronged by their spouse. Very few can tell me how they have been blessed. I wish that were not true. Paul says that it is one of the keys in all loving relationships.
So my encouragement today is to keep lists, but keep the right lists. Take out that list of wrongs and hurts and give those things to God and then burn your list. Some things are better forgotten.