Recently I have been traveling hundreds of miles on the highway (or is it a freeway?) as I have taken my parents back and forth to Missouri. Yesterday I was getting back onto the road and I was coming down the entrance ramp I didn’t see anything in my mirrors so I started to merge. Then a mid-size black SUV took off from my left ahead of me. He was right there the whole time hidden in my blind spot.
This got me thinking about the blind spots in my life. Things that I am doing wrong or thinking wrong that I do not see. Is it possible that I could be doing something really stupid and no one says anything to me about it? I know I have heard it from the other side. Someone makes a big mistake in life and as I talk to people about it they say something like, “We saw it coming all along.”
How do you avoid blind spots in your life?
1. Ruthlessly evaluate your life regularly. This is the process of asking yourself some hard questions. Questions about faith, marriage, parenting, work and personal life. Are you growing in your walk with the Lord? What do you need to work on in your marriage? Are your children growing into strong Christians who will make it in the world?
2. Develop honest relationships. This is the hardest by far, but all of us need it. My suggestions for you. If you have a relationship with someone and they tell you something honest about yourself – Don’t get mad, don’t respond with accusations, don’t avoid them, don’t over react and don’t spin it and play the victim. These actions kill a relationship. The Bible says in Proverbs that “wounds from a friend can be trusted.”
3. Pay close attention to what people say and do around you. If people are avoiding me? Maybe I need to work on my relationships? Do all my conversations end up with me talking about me? Maybe I need to develop better communication skills. Does my spouse show me respect? Do my children speak of godly things? Do my Christian friends seem to be getting distant? The list could go on and on.
4. What do you suggest? What are you doing to keep your life focused and growing?
I am working hard to build the best life I can build within the will of God. I know that does not come naturally. In fact, I may have some huge blind spots that will one day leave me in an accident. So for now, instead of drifting blindly into traffic I want to install those little mirrors to help me see what I am missing. Maybe you need to do the same.