He wanted to rebuild his marriage. It was a mess and divorce was looming shortly. As his pastor and counselor, I gave him a series of ideas that would move him the right direction. He walked out of the office and proceeded to do none of the suggestions I gave him. I was not surprised to find out that his marriage ended in divorce a short time later.
The problem was not that the ideas for impossible or impractical. The issue for him was that the steps he would need to take were difficult. They required a concerted effort to do the right thing, and when it came down to action, he was not willing to work for it.
One essential question about anything you do in life is, “How badly do you want it?”
1. How badly do you want a great marriage? Do you want it enough to sit down and have an awkward conversation? Would you be willing to skip something you want to do in order to be with your spouse? Do you want it enough to go to a counselor and follow their instructions? Do you want it enough to confess your deepest sin to find healing together? Are you willing to adjust your life to make your spouse happy?
2. How badly do you want Christian children? Do you want it enough to schedule a time each day to engage in spiritual growth? Do you want it enough to read a book when you don’t like to read? Would you ever be willing to say “no” to something they want to do because it interferes with a Christian activity?
3. How badly do you want a deep faith in Jesus? Do you want it enough to get up early to have extra time to read and pray? Possibly for you that might mean staying up late. Do you want it enough to skip a sporting event to be a part of a Bible study? Do you want it enough that you plan your week around worship and service?
4. How badly do you want Godly joy? Do you want it so much that you would confess your deepest darkest sin to someone who cares about you? Are you willing to risk the embarrassment of telling people you don’t have it altogether? Are you ready to spend every day reminding yourself in prayer of the blessing you have received? Would you be willing to give up temporary smiles for a more profound joy that lives in your soul? Would you give up something you do as routine for a new life plan?
The list could go on and on.
Life is full of unlimited possibilities of things to do. We often fool ourselves into thinking we want something that we really have no intention of getting. We somehow believe that because we have a desire to accomplish a goal that we are on the right path. I have found what separates people who achieve great things in life and those who do not is the willingness to do whatever it takes to complete their goals. Their actions are aligned with their dreams, and they do the work it takes to make their ideas happen.
So what do you want to do with your life? Now how badly do you really want it?