And that is humbling to write or say.
Because my spouse has flaws and issues too. I could probably list them and make myself feel better.
Because I am a better spouse than many people I know. Compared to others, I am doing well.
But the truth is that I am the trouble with my marriage, and it is okay.
I can fix myself. I have the power to change my behavior, my words, my attitudes, and my actions.
I cannot fix my spouse.
The first step toward a better marriage is admitting that I am the problem, and I can do better.