Over the past few months, I have immersed myself in the world of disciple-making. I have been reading books and blogs, listening to lessons and podcasts, and having personal conversations with pastors who lead Churches that are genuinely making disciples of Jesus.

One thing has stood out to me in all the material I have consumed. There are a large number of preachers who decided to reinvent themselves and their Churches in the middle of their ministries. They were working away at making sermons, teaching lessons, working with people, and never really making disciples. Then God grabbed their heart somehow, and they stepped up and changed their whole approach.

This realization has reaffirmed my personal journey. I am inspired by people who are willing to change everything in the middle of their lives. They stood up and said, “I have been living by the information I had, but now I have new information.” Then they changed accordingly.

Following Jesus means we need to be willing to alter our course of action at any time. It is not about getting it right and doing the same things over and over for a lifetime. Instead, it is about learning, growing, and trying new things for God.

Numerous Godly people have reinvented themselves in the middle of life, and I know it can be done. The question is, “Are you and I willing to make the needed changes?” 

Within the Church, there are three types of sermons and lessons. They are educational, inspirational, and practical.

Educational teaching provides people with new information. Maybe you have never read this story or thought about its meaning. Here is a Bible passage; let me show you what that means.

Inspirational teaching is designed to trigger your emotions. Hearing this material will inspire you to take what you already know and use it. People become complacent or apathetic, and the goal is to motivate them into different behavior.

Practical instruction is focused on changing actions. They are not trying to teach us anything new but to take what we know and show us how to implement it into our lives. For example, the Bible teaches us to love our spouse, but practical teaching shows us how to do that daily with the dishes, money, and bedroom.

All three of these are needed in the Church. One is not better than another, and they serve a different purpose. Individually we may value one over the others and might even feel it is the only way to do it. This is simply not true. We need the correct information, motivation, and practical steps to make it happen. Education alone leaves us feeling smart but unchanged. Inspiration alone can move us to do anything we feel is right. Practical steps need a foundation of truth upon which to build.

Whenever you listen to a sermon or a lesson, it is worth asking, “What type of message is this?”

The Church needs a balance of all three; just because you prefer one does not mean the other ways are invalid. All three are required for transformation into Christlikeness.

Whenever hard-working people encounter a problem in life, they tend to try and fix it through hard work.

As a Christian, one challenge is to stop relying on us and lean into our faith. We take our problems to God in prayer first and ask for his guidance and power to work. Then we are to ask the community of faith for help and support. If we don’t need their support, maybe we should ask who we can teach through this experience and have them stand beside us to learn through it.

This is not to discredit hard work in any way. But believers must relinquish self-reliance and trust God to guide and provide. We are to work within the boundaries of faith for us to grow along with those around us. 

You might be able to fix it yourself, but should you?

Standing back and allowing people to fail is one of the hardest things to do. Especially if you care about that person, so perhaps this is the most painful when it is your children.

Yet, failure is a vital part of learning. Frequently in life, I have gained more helpful information from my mistakes and disappointments than from victories. They have shown me my pride and lack of knowledge more than any other test. While we all hate to fail, we can admit that some failures have been helpful in the long term.

Do you remember the story of Peter denying that he even knew Jesus? It was predicted at the last supper, and Jesus knew it was coming, yet he let it happen anyway. Jesus could have given him a step-by-step guide to avoid this failure, but he only gave him a vague warning.

The Apostle Peter’s failure becomes the stepping stone for him to receive forgiveness through Jesus in John chapter 21. This would then catapult him through the power of the Holy Spirit to preach forgiveness in Jesus’ name into all the world. His mistake became his ministry.

The question that haunts me is, “Am I willing to let people fail?” Am I willing to stand back and let my kids fall flat on their faces? Would I let someone lead a ministry I know is doomed to fail? Do I have enough restraint to stay out of events and not run in and try to fix everything?

Jesus knew that failure could be a great teacher. Sometimes following him means that we need to allow people to grow through pain … even the people we love.

Many of us live with damaged relationships. Something was said or done that separated us from a person we cared about deeply. We despair over that lost connection every time we see or think about them.

The road to building back a relationship is found in one word: forgiveness. Some of us need to say we are sorry for what happened and ask for forgiveness. Others of us should offer the forgiveness required to make things right again.

No relationship is beyond the power of forgiveness when offered or accepted as a gift. Sure, actions need to accompany words and feelings, but the first step is always getting right with the past.

My guess as a pastor is that you could begin to rebuild a relationship right now if you were willing to try forgiveness. And I also guess you already have a name in your mind. The only thing stopping you is you. 

Every Sunday morning, I sit in my office quietly for a couple of minutes when people start to arrive. I close my eyes and whisper, “You can do this. God will give you the strength and power.”

Then I turn it into a prayer. “Dear Lord, help me to be the pastor and the person I need to be. Give me the right words to say and your Spirit to say them.”

Going out into the congregation and engaging people is not my strength. However, I also know God wants me to connect meaningfully with people. 

I know the right thing to do, but I am naturally inclined not to do it. So, every Sunday morning, I give myself a pep talk. My old coach would say that I “psyche myself up.”

There is power in realizing you have control over your actions. You can overpower your emotions. You can find strength through your faith. You can do the right thing by stepping out of your comfort zone and trusting God to work through you.

This is not just true for preachers. It is true for everyone. You have the power to do God’s will even when every fiber of your being says, “I don’t want to.” Maybe you just need to give yourself a little pep talk. 

Suppose you want to find a reason to stay. You can find it. This can be your marriage, your job, your community, and even your Church.

Suppose you want to find a reason to leave. You can find it. This can be your marriage, your job, your community, and even your Church.

Most people decide what they want to do, and then they gather evidence to make their choice seem correct.  

There are all kinds of reasons out there for you to choose a particular path; the question is simply, “Which one are you looking for?”

It was a feeling I had never experienced.

The person was telling a story, and they ended by saying, “I was so very blessed” because this happened to me.

They didn’t know that I had taken similar steps in my life. I had done nearly the same things but had a very different outcome.

My feeling was a sickness in my soul. If they got the results they desired and considered themselves blessed, then what does that make me? What does that mean for me if I did the same things and got a very different result?

Is the opposite of blessed defined as being cursed? Is it punished? Am I judged? What is it?

The feeling shook me to my core. All these years, I have referred to people in my sermons as blessed and never realized how that made other people feel.

For Christians, it is essential to say that we are all blessed; others may simply be blessed differently. The blessings in your life may not look like those in mine. In fact, even hardship can be a blessing if it teaches us to love God more along with other people. Every situation and outcome can be a way that God loves us, grows us, and makes us long for more of him.   

When a believer describes themselves as blessed, I think it is important to underline that the opposite is not true. Other people are not cursed. Instead, we are all blessed differently.

I once hired a consultant to help our new Church as we launched it publicly. The associate I hired was one of the first people to talk to him. The consultant listed that one of his most significant achievements in ministry was starting five new Churches. My associate, who had a keen wit, asked him a question I had missed when I hired him to evaluate our Church. He asked, “How are the five Churches you started doing now?”

A blank stare came across his face, and he responded, “In all my years of consulting, no one has ever asked me that?” After some discussion, it appeared that two of his new Churches had closed, two were struggling, and one was thriving. 

I was so enamored with the idea of someone who could start five Churches that I forgot to ask the most crucial question: What were the long-term results?

Because of this encounter, it is now one of my biggest questions. When someone tells me about their marriage practices, I want to know where they are at year 30 or more. When someone tells me about how parenting should be done, I want to see their kids when they are past 25 years old. When someone thrives in ministry, I want to know where they are a few years later. 

Lots of things start with great excitement and fizzle into nothing. More than once, I have heard that this new thing was a “gift from God,” only to watch it fall apart over the coming years. 

If you want to build good habits and practices in your life, marriage, parenting, or ministry, look to people who have had long-term success. They will never be flashy or exciting, but their strategies may be the most successful when viewed over time.

There is a vast difference between something or someone that is making an immediate impact and those with long-term results. 

We have more time-saving devices and tools than any other generation in history. We have smartphones, microwaves, Google, and computers. In addition, thousands of items are specifically designed to help you shave precious minutes off every task. 

Yet, people are busier than at any other point in time. Whenever I talk to people, their common refrain is “I’m busy,” despite all these great new tools.

So where does your time go? And what is filling it up?

Just like you should do a regular financial audit to know where your money is going, you should also do a time audit. You must be aware of where your time is going.

When we stand before God, He will ask us what we did with our resources. How did we spend the money He gave us? How did we use the gifts and abilities He gave us? And how did we use our time?

Your problem is probably not a lack of time; instead, it is a lack of priorities, and you’re wasting a lot of time on things lacking eternal significance.