This week is Thanksgiving. I have been reading several articles about being thankful and saying thanks. Some of these articles are divinely directed. Many people, including myself, see this Thursday as an opportunity to thank God for all he has given to us.
The other group of articles is focused on the people in our lives. These writers want us to focus our attention this this Thursday on the people who have blessed our lives and tell them thanks. I am in total agreement that our gratitude needs expressed often.
There is one thing I learned a long time ago that none of these articles have contained. Somewhere along the line I heard someone explain to me that for a compliment to be truly encouraging you need to be specific. I honestly don’t remember who told me this information or where I heard it, but I know that is come home to me as truth. Since that time I have tried to practice this advice every time I thank someone and it is always more effective.
Don’t say “Thanks.” – Say something like, “Thank You for showing up and helping me rake my leaves. It saved me a lot of time and I appreciate all you did for me.”
Don’t Text “Thanx.” – Text something like, “Thank you for staying in my life when others would have left.”
Don’t write “Thank You.” – Write something like, “Thank you for visiting me on my birthday and taking the time to visit with me. I know you are busy and I really appreciate the time you gave me.”
Don’t email “I thank God for you.” Email something like, “I thank God for the way you study and prepare for your Sunday school lesson each and every Sunday. You have made an impact on my life and the life of others. You truly are a blessing to me”
I believe that people like to hear statements of gratitude but they love it when they know why you are specifically thankful.