From ME to WE

The pronouns you chose are significant.  They express your view as an individual or as a member of a team. 

A basketball player who is continually talking about his stats and his performance underlines what he feels is important.  The same is true for the player who talks about how we did and what we can do to improve. 

This is true for a Church member as well.  When someone talks to me about her gifts and her ministry ideas, she is saying something about her priorities.  When he doesn’t like the music or thinks he is the only one qualified to lead a group.  It becomes clear who is his focus.   

On the other hand, anyone who says, “How can we help more people to know Jesus,” has a different viewpoint.  People who speak of our Church and what we are doing for the Lord have the opposite perspective. 

Paul writes in Philippians 1:18, “The important thing is that in every way, whether from false motives or true, Christ is preached. And because of this I rejoice.” (NIV 2011)  He clarifies that no one is unwelcome in Church or trying to do their best for God.  But I would add that one of the biggest steps of spiritual growth I see is when someone moves from “me” to “we.”  For in that same letter, Paul encourages believers to “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3 NIV 2011)

The next time you speak of the Church and your activity there, listen to the pronouns you use.  Perhaps they are revealing an area of faith that you need to grow.  Church is a team sport, and everyone plays a part in the success of God’s kingdom together as one.    

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