A pet peeve is officially defined as “something that a particular person finds especially annoying.”  It should not surprise you that even preachers have them when it comes to things of religion.  My biggest one is when a preacher uses several totally different translations when teaching or preaching.  They quote the NIV, ESV, NLT, KJV, and the RSV during a single message.

Unfortunately, some translations are unreliable, and some are actually paraphrases like the Living Bible and the Message. I am not opposed to using those tools when studying to help you understand the passage better.  That way, you know what people have done with tricky words and complicated phrases.  But I hate it when a preacher jumps around to different translations because it uses a word that serves their agenda.  Some of them can be used to convey thoughts that do not accurately align with the rest of scripture.

I prefer everyone to choose one translation and stick with it over and over again.  Our Church has determined to use the New International Version (NIV).  I use it every week, and it is found in every Bible the Church purchases for use.  Others prefer the English Standard Version (ESV), and I am great with that choice.  Pick one and use it, learn it, and know it.

The next time you are reading through posts on social media or even listening to a preacher, and you see a quote from the Bible and some strange letters after it, take the time to look it up in the translation you use.  The goal is to know God’s word accurately and not search for phrasing that we like better than others.   

I hope you are friendly to everyone.  Being friendly is defined as living in a kind, good, and pleasant way, without being harmful or competitive. 

Being a friend is something different.  A friend is defined as a mutual affection between two people as they support, encourage, and help one another. 

You can be friendly and keep people at arm’s length.  You never let them get close to you or never allow yourself to get close to them.  People are casual acquaintances to whom you act nice when they are around, but there is no connection at a deeper level.    

A friend is a person who shares their life with you, and you return the favor.  You deeply care about one another, talk regularly, stand together, and pray for the best for them. 

The call of scripture is to love one another (John 13:34-35, 1 Peter 1:22, 1 John 3:11, 23, 4:7, 11).  This is a plea for us to become friends with other people who follow Jesus.  That requires us to do more than be friendly on Sunday morning. 

Being friendly is good, but it is a poor substitute for being a friend. 

For the past 18 months, I have been on a journey of weight loss.  About nine months were spent losing pounds, and since then, I have been trying to maintain my lower weight.

How have I accomplished such goals? 

It came because I changed my routines.  First, I started waking up at five in the morning.  Then I began walking and occasionally jogging.  Along with that has come a low carb and high protein diet.  Meals are eaten early in the day, and I try to be done before six in the evening.  Each day has an entirely new look as my routines have led me to a new life, physically speaking. 

Actual change comes through adjusting our actions, especially our daily habits.

The same is true of our spiritual lives.  Determine what you want to become and then set up a series of regular actions to achieve it.  This can be Bible study, prayer, reading a Christian book, using the Youversion Bible app, or a long list of other possibilities.  Give yourself to the practices of learning, serving, giving, and quiet.  These spiritual disciplines will help to mold your mind but also the actions of your daily grind. 

Know that the first 28 days will be the most difficult.  Once the patterns take hold, they will become the steady rhythm of your new and improved life.

If you want to change yourself, physically or spiritually, start by adjusting your daily routines.  Each new habit will bring you one step closer to who you want to be.  

There is a section in Walmart near the front where the items are labeled as “As Seen on TV.”  Once I was at an outlet mall that had an entire store by the same name.  All the items you have seen advertised on TV from infomercials to traditional commercials are in this store or section.  These fantastic inventions are right there in the store for you to see.

I wonder if anything would change if we labeled people as they leave worship on Sunday morning with a little stamp that said, “As Heard at Church.” Then, that week as people went into the world, they would be a living example of what the preacher was saying.  People would see the mark on others’ hands and be able to see the fantastic things of which they had heard. 

I know this sounds crazy but be clear about one thing:  You are a walking advertisement for the faith you hear proclaimed to you. 

There is a difference between being a good person and having a ministry. 

I have lots of good people who attend the Church I lead.  They worship with us occasionally, and then during their week, they help people and are friendly to others as the opportunity presents itself.  They have no exact strategy to make sure they are continually helping others, but they are available if needed.  They may not mention Jesus, but they feel their actions reflect him, and that is enough.  These individuals smile and are genuinely good people.

A ministry can happen anywhere, but it always requires routines and a plan.  There are regularly scheduled times where something will happen for the kingdom of God.  Someone will be fed, clothed, taught, visited, invited, encouraged, and a host of other things.  In the end, it is clear that this activity was done because Jesus is Lord and wants us to make a difference in his name.  Ministry has a cumulative impact on individuals, Churches, and communities.  These people are also good, but they work within a system for the greatest impact possible. 

Don’t get me wrong; I want everyone to be the good person God desires us to be as we follow Jesus.  But people who make a real, lasting difference have a ministry. 

It is extremely difficult to hear an honest account of events.

I do not mean that people lie to us all the time.  But I know that every story you hear has a particular slant that we need to be aware of when listening. 

When I tell a story, I admit that I will often leave out significant details.  Some parts make me look bad that I do not speak.  The opposite is also true; you will listen to all the items that make me look good.  Usually, a story is told with little time for a backstory, context, personal dynamics, a relationship history, and any further explanation that might be important to clarify things. 

Even the most well-intentioned people will share their life experiences with a slant that makes them feel good about themselves.  For this reason, as believers, we must be quick to listen and willing to do our homework before we take the time to speak.

Sometimes the person sharing the story is the problem, but they do not tell it that way. 

Through the years, I have met numerous people who reject God because of some painful experience in their life. For example, one man watched his dad die of cancer, another person witnessed her brother’s struggles, and still, another suffered under the hands of an abusive parent.  Each story is genuinely agonizing, and I cannot imagine the hurt these people feel.

Each one then told me how they could not believe in a God who allowed such evil in the world. So they rejected any faith and walked away from the Lord and the Church forever.

After hearing stories like these, I have one question I like to ask, and I have yet to receive a satisfying answer.  I simply ask, “How did giving up on God make your life better?” 

Usually, I am greeted with a blank stare.  One lady muttered, and another person got angry.   Still, no one has been able to explain to me how a rejection of God made their pain any easier.  If they let me keep talking, I like to tell them, “Unfortunately, you removed all hope from the situation.”  I explain how their father’s death was just a sad ending, their brother will die without forgiveness, and their abusive parent will never see any justice served.  This is not an attempt to be cruel; rather, a chance for them to process their thinking. 

I firmly believe that only does our faith in God makes sense of pain.  He offers eternal life, a heavenly body, and a final judgment.  Everyone lives through hurt, difficulty, and death.  Faith in God can take every situation and turn it into a positive one.  Dark nights of the soul are moments when we can run from God, but that never makes life any better.  The help, health, and hope we need are only found in a God who loves us so much that he sent his son that we might have eternity with him. 

When life is at its most challenging, lean into God and learn to trust him more.  That does not mean that things will immediately get better, but it does give us a perspective that there is hope to be found somewhere in the story.  The old song used to say, “Leaning, leaning on the everlasting arms.”  That is the place where grace and goodness are found, and there is no good reason to run from them. 

I was visiting a site that is directed at youth ministers.  The webpage seeks to help people who teach and lead Jr. and Sr. High school ministries in their local Churches.  I read through the content and gathered ideas for the Church I serve when an article caught my eye.  I started reading it and then the comments that followed it.  One of the most popular ones was written by a teenager, and he stated his viewpoint on the material; “The Church is answering questions no one is asking.”

I understood his point.  The Church needs to be relevant to the needs of today’s teenagers.  The people who lead youth need to understand video games, popular apps, computer trends, and current fads impacting the lives of the young people in their groups.  A lecture on “The Evils of Rock and Roll Music” is probably not the most relevant of messages. 

At the same time, I wanted to type in this simple reply to his comment; “Exactly.”  Just because no one is asking specific questions, that does not mean they are not significant issues.  Most people are too obsessed with what is hot, new, current, or relevant.  Life’s biggest concerns do not fall into those categories.  People need to hear about sin and forgiveness.  They need instruction in holy living that brings a lifetime of good results along with the destructive behaviors that haunt someone for years.  The topics of an eternal heaven and hell do not seem significant until someone knows life tragically ends.  There are questions that every human being needs to wrestle with throughout their life, even if the issues are not trendy. 

Just because everyone you know is not asking questions about faith and God, do not assume they are unimportant topics.  Some people are ignoring and avoiding these things to their demise.  Maybe the reason to go to Church is because it asks questions that no one else is asking. 

A Church consultant recently shared a quote that is attributed to Walt Disney.  It was written on a whiteboard in the meeting room of a business to inspire its workers.

“Whatever you do, do it well. Do it so well when people see you do it, they will want to come back and see you do it again, and they will want to bring others and show them how well you do what you do.”

The question that I have is, “What if we took this approach to our ministry?” 

This is true for paid staff in a Church.  I desire to preach so well that people want to come and listen, then return with their friends. 

But the application could be for everyone who volunteers also.  When someone works in the nursery, do they do it well?  When someone teaches in our children’s ministry, do they do it to the best of their ability?  This could be asked of small group leaders, greeters, worship team members, and a whole host of other ministries. 

Let’s be honest, Walt wanted people to do this for the money.  He wanted people to pay and then have their friend come back, and they would pay too.  It is a good business strategy. However, in the Church, we do not do it for money; instead, we long for God to say one day, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”  That should give us reason enough to do things well.

Frequently, we need people to stop and explain the events we just experienced.  We need a medical expert to take tests and tell us what happened inside our body when we were in that accident.  Each year, I consult a tax expert to evaluate my income and spending to help me understand what is happening with my return.  Many of us tune into some weather station to help us know what is happening outside and what we can expect soon.  We do not have enough knowledge to adequately understand what is going on in every situation.

This is also true for our spiritual life.  Another reason God puts believers into a community of faith is to have fellow believers’ wisdom and insight.  Some of the instruction may come from paid leaders who have years of training and experience.  Other people can guide us because they have the space to see what friends are missing or unwilling to say.  Finally, there is always a need for close relationships who know us well and can see the things to which we have become blind. 

Just because you are experiencing something does not mean that you understand what is happening.  We need people to help clarify where we might be failing or where God might be working.  Our knowledge is too limited to know what is going on spiritually in every situation adequately.  We need people to help us understand ourselves, and they need us to help them.