It is a trite expression, but it is foundational.

It may not be what we wanted or hoped for.

It may not be what we planned or prepared for.

It may not even be what we expected.

Face reality. Take a brutally honest assessment.

This is the situation you currently find yourself in.

Start there. Make a new plan, choose a new direction, and move toward a better outcome.

It is what it is, but it does not have to be what it becomes.