Most people who attend Church truly want to see their Church grow numerically. They understand that having new people means that more people desire a relationship with Jesus. It is very encouraging to see all the new faces, have people making decisions and feel the excitement each week.

While most people want to see this growth, they simply do not understand the cost that goes with it. Here are just a few examples:

1. More people means less open parking – Most families attend Church in 2 or 3 cars. This is because people are usually headed all different directions once Church is over. So if you add 20 new people then you have also added 10-15 new cars. Soon the parking lot fills up and the close spaces are gone quickly. It is tougher to find a spot and I may have to walk a lot farther.

2. More people means I may have to change seats each week – New people do not know where I sit each week. As a result, they may sit in the spot where I normally sit. That is also where all my friends sit. Soon I am on the other side of the auditorium and it feels weird and I feel disconnected. This is especially true of you only have relationships with people on Sunday morning. A change in seats represents the loss of friends.

3. More people might require I give more financially – New people usually do not start giving anything until after they have been attending for 3-6 months minimum. The result is that more people put a financial strain on a Church with only a couple more people giving. The Church needs more staff and more stuff to meet the needs of the growing congregation. All of that requires money. Who is going to give to make that happen?

4. More people requires more volunteers – Like giving, most new people will not serve for 6 months to a year. That means there are a lot of new people who need ministry without giving ministry. This requires some of the older members to step up and do more, maybe twice as much, to meet the needs of the group.

5. More people each week changes the dynamics with the preacher – The simple fact is that the more people a congregation has the less access everyone has to the preacher. Me, for example, I have about 300 people I am trying to minister to right now. It is very difficult to give everyone in that group the same amount of attention without killing me or burning me out. I have to lead the leaders of the Church first and that is hard for some people.

These are just a few of the dynamics that change as a church grows. The fact is that for every new face to attend a change has to be made. I once listened to a Church leader who said the reason most Churches do not grow is because the looked at the cost and said the price is too high. I pray that is never true of a Church that I lead.

Last Friday night I was driving back from my parent’s house in Indiana. Normally I take all interstate highways to get home, but this time, I decided to take a different route. This move enabled me to stay out of the rush hour traffic and avoid the thousands of semis on the road. My choice to take back roads also made for some interesting radio listening. As I scanned through the stations that evening I heard farm reports, lots of local football, several country stations and one channel that was all Hispanic music (which is interesting for small town Missouri radio).

One station I landed on had a song playing that I knew. I listened through the end of the song and then the announcer came on to speak. Instead of a local personality, the show was syndicated and the person talking was John Tesh. He said something like, “Studies show one more secret to weight loss when we return.”

To be honest, I could drop a couple of pounds so I stayed on through the commercials. Finally, Mr. Tesh returned and he told about a study conducted somewhere by some university on the topic of weight loss. He said this study discovered that people who have fit and skinny friends are more likely to lose weight. The people who have fuller figured friends are less likely to lose weight. The reason this happens, according to this study, is because thin people reinforce a lifestyle of less indulgence. Heavier friends have the opposite effect. When they gather to have fun they bring food and drinks. The big conclusion to his story was that we need to pay attention to the people in our lives because they also influence our weight.

No more had the words come from his mouth and I could see the application for Christians.

Your life of faith is molded by the people you spend time with each day too. Spend time with people who are dedicated to the Lord and make Godly decisions and you become like them. Spend time with half-hearted people who bend their morals to every situation and you become like them. Spend all your time with nonbelievers and you soon act like a nonbeliever.

Almost 2,000 years ago the apostle Paul wrote to the Church in the city of Corinth. He told them in 1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” (NIV)

One way to assess your growth as a Christian is to look at the people you spend your time with. How do you view them? Are the deep, spiritual people? Are they wishy-washy about their faith? Would you never guess they are believers at all?

Maybe that is the type of person you are today. Maybe it is not at the moment. You may not be like them now, but given enough time, you will be.

This past year I have spent a great deal of time in doctor’s offices. My mom and dad along with two of my sons have been to numerous doctors for their various issues. With each visit, I have noticed three things that make for a great doctor’s visit.

1. The Staff
The people who represent a doctor are the first contact people encounter. A secretary with an attitude is a bad first experience. A nurse with limited people skills is a terrible representation of the doctor. More than one person has changed their doctor because of the staff that serves him.

2. Knowledge
My mother visited a doctor who basically told her she was getting older. While that is true, she did have a problem called C-diff that another doctor diagnosed. The first doctor didn’t listen to her problems closely and didn’t run the right tests. His lack of ability to find her problem offered her no relief. Needless to say, he is no longer her doctor. You go to a doctor to gain the knowledge you could not obtain on your own.

3. Bedside Manor
A good doctor has to be able to deal with people. He needs to put people at ease and make them feel important. A smile, taking the time to listen and a kind word are as important as knowledge. My mother loves her new doctor because he makes her feel like more than just another patient.

After visiting with dozens of doctors, in my opinion, these three are the biggest pieces to being a good doctor. The longer I thought about it, the more I believe that these are the same parts of a good Church. The people who represent the Lord through his Church are important. What and how we teach are vital. How people interact with each other gives the Church a personal feel.

I am not saying that these are all there are to a Church. But these are three big factors in the life of a Church. The good news is that each of these can be improved by attention and effort. We can be more welcoming. We can put the right people in the right places. We can always improve our teaching. We can stretch ourselves to be more friendly.

How many doctors lose patients to another location because of something they could have changed, but didn’t? I wonder how many Churches lose people and they never go back to Church at all because of things we could have done better but didn’t?

Through the year I have learned that a really good doctor is hard to find. I hope that a good Church is not so rare.

Years ago I read an article from a wiser older minister that has greatly influenced my thinking. In this article, he wrote that Churches need to “change for the sake of change.”

Conventional wisdom says this is wrong. You only need to change if the activity has deep significance and is beneficial to everyone. I was told, “Don’t change anything unless is it completely necessary.”

This preacher argued in the opposite direction. He said that Churches should be changing everything all the time. In fact, he said that Churches should be creating a culture of change. His line of thinking was quite simple. When you only make a few changes every year then people are startled when they occur. When you change lots of stuff all the time, then people are used to it and react less aggressively when big changes happen.

After 20 plus years of ministry, I have come to believe he is right. So at the Church I lead I am constantly changing everything. I try to move activities around in the order of program each week. I try to keep moving items in the entryway and lobby. If there is something that can be changed easily then I like to change it. I firmly believe we need to “change for the sake of change.”

Hopefully, this keeps us open to the movement of God in our Church. We are ready if we need to adjust our plans to make things work better for his kingdom. It might not always be comfortable, but remember that God calls us to be faithful and not comfortable.

This Sunday, September 18, 2016, at Adrian Christian Church at 9:30 am I will be starting a new sermon series.

September 18 “Brothers in Arms”
September 25 “Cover Me”
October 2 “Purple Heart People”
October 9 “Friendly Fire”
October 16 “Not Forgotten”

I would love it if you could join us for this powerful series of sermons. www.adriancc.org

Most days I really let myself down. I start off the day by saying, “I will not do that today.” Maybe it is more personal like “I will not think like that again.” Either way, I frequently plan to have a day that I think will make God proud of me. I pray for it in the morning. I plan for it as the day gets started. I swear to it in the deep recesses of my spirit.

Then it happens. I step into the darkness of my own soul. I do that thing I swore I would never do again. Upon realization of my thoughts and actions, I slip into the despair of another failed day. I let myself down and I let God down.

On a day like this, my mind goes back to a piece of scripture. It is from the Apostle Paul’s letter to the Church in Rome. He is talking about a life of faith, the gift of grace and the power of the Holy Spirit. In that passage, he says something that I cannot escape.

Romans 7:15-20 For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. (16) Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. (17) So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. (18) For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. (19) For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. (20) Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. (ESV)

I know there is a deeper understanding of this passage than what just lies at face value. Yet, I read the words clearly without any commentary other than my own life.

“I do not understand my own actions.” Oh yes.

“I know nothing good dwells in me.” How very true.

I quickly take comfort in the fact that one of the greatest Church leaders struggled some day just like I do. He felt the burden of our flesh’s desire to do that which is contrary to God’s will. He felt the burn of the flesh as he did those things he despised.

I know that feeling. And sometimes, I just want to know that I am not alone in my struggles. There are times that I think no one will ever understand what I am thinking or feeling. There are times I feel all alone in my depravity. Then the scripture reminds me that I am not alone. God’s people have struggled with sin since the very beginning. Even God’s greatest people were a total mess, all the way from King David to the Apostle Paul.

The human struggle against sin is real. We all have been there. We are all there right now.

Take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Everyone has been there. Just do not give up. Instead, throw yourself on the grace of Jesus over and over. No believer is perfect, just forgiven.

Lamentations 3:22-23 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; (23) they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. (ESV)

I learned this verse through an old hymn that we sang in Church. Some of you might know the song “Great is Thy Faithfulness” and remember it too. It was written as a reflection on this verse and has a great line, “morning by morning new mercies I see.”

For some reason, this line was going through my head when I woke up the other morning. The strange thing for me was that I had not sung that song in probably 20 years. But there was this hymn running through my head in the darkness just before dawn. I began to think of all the wonderful things that each new day brings. I thought of the great mercy God has on me just by giving me another day to live.

1.Each day I get to live in the grace of Jesus.
I am keenly aware of the fact that I am a mess. I honestly believe God has every reason to punish me in some way. But through the grace of Jesus, I am made new. My sins are washed away and I stand clean before him. Every day I am newly thankful for the mercy of God.

2. Each day is a chance to start over
Yesterday is gone along with all with all of its mistakes and failures. Today is here and it is full of new possibilities for good. God has given me today and I can use it to start new and do whatever he wants me to do. I am so thankful for each new day.

3. Each day is an opportunity for me to serve the Lord in some way.
I love the fact that I do not know where today is going. Someone may walk in my office and I can share the message of Jesus with them. I may encounter someone at the store that needs to hear a kind word. I may write a lesson that will help someone understand the Bible. God only knows what great opportunities this day will bring.

4. Each day I get to experience love.
I am blessed to have the love of my parents, my spouse, and my children. I am also surrounded by people who love and support me. I am thankful for every day I get to spend with them.

5. Each day holds new chances for learning and growing spiritually.
Today I will read articles, stories and posts that will teach me. I will spend time reading my Bible. I will talk to people and hear their ideas. In those experiences, I will get to know God more and learn of his ways in the world. Each day brings so many new lessons.

I believe that each day is filled with great opportunities for so many wonderful experiences. Each day is a gift of God in his wonderful mercy. Morning by morning new mercies I see. Will you look with me today?

Scrolling through the daily feed on my Facebook page I noticed several articles about the same events. Because I have a diverse group of friends the links that many of my friends shared were opposing sides of the same story. One event and two groups of people saw it completely different.

That reminds me very clearly. Some people love you. Some people hate you.

It doesn’t seem to matter what you are doing or what you are going to do. There will be people who stand beside you. There will be people who stand opposed to you.

One group will bring you joy and the other will bring you grief.
One group sees the best in you and the other sees the worst.
One group inspires you and the other discourages you.
One group energizes your day and the other sucks the life out of you.

Which of those groups is going to occupy your mind today?

Will your day, your week, your month or your year be occupied with trying to please people who really don’t care for you? Will your critics win your heart by their negative comments? Will you spend countless hours replaying your successes or your failures?

Honestly, the choice is up to you. Choose wisely.

The other day it was brought to my attention that October is “Pastor Appreciation Month.” For anyone who knows me, you know that I am not a fan. I think it was the creation of a pastor who had an inferiority complex to make himself feel important, but I digress.

While I do not enjoy Pastor Appreciation Month I do have things in my ministry that bring me real joy. These are the things that keep me going as a preacher.

1.When Someone Follows Jesus
It just never gets old seeing people come to me and want to follow Jesus. Hearing them repeat a confession of faith and being a part of their baptism is truly a highlight of any week.

2. When Someone Prays for Me
This shows me that we are on the same team. We are both wanting to see God work in our Church. We want him to use me for a greater impact for his kingdom.

3. When Someone Steps Up to Serve
I love seeing people work in every area of our Church. When someone selflessly gives their time to help with the kids, work on our building, lead worship or one of a thousand things, it is a wonderful investment of time.

4. When Someone Generously Supports the Church Financially
Words cannot express the depth of appreciation I feel when someone supports the Church with their finances. This giving not only pays for the building needs, it also pays for me to give my life to full-time ministry. Without people giving, I am not able to lead this ministry.

5. When Someone Blesses the Life of Another Church Member
I feel like people do things for me out of obligation, but there is no real reason for them to help each other. The only reason is that they want to live like Jesus. When people are kind to each other it is the kingdom of God present on earth.

6. When Someone is Kind to My Wife.
My wife and most pastor’s wives do so much without any recognition. They give countless hours to the church with no expectation of reward. I am thrilled anytime people go out of their way to show their love and appreciation of her with no strings attached.

7. When Someone Makes a Change Based on My Teaching
I work hard to put a sermon together. I spend hours in Bible study, research, and preparation. I think what I am saying is not only good teaching but also good advice. I do my part to present the material, but that doesn’t mean anyone has to do it. So when people take my words seriously in their life, it is a high honor.

8. When Someone Brings Their Friends
It is kind for people to tell me they like the Church or the program or even the sermon. It means even more when they tell their friends about it and bring them. In fact, it may be the highest compliment anyone can pay me.

I really don’t want this article to be self-serving in any way. Yes, I enjoy it when people do nice things for me, but the real joy is found in my ministry when the Church acts like the Church.

I want to see all believers move from being new Christians to being mature believers. Most of the time we define mature believers with the usual standards such as Church attendance, Bible knowledge, prayer time, service and giving. I still believe those are good ways to start measuring growth but I want to suggest to you five other possible signs.

1. You Have Made Hundreds of Mistakes
A mature believer is not perfect, they are just forgiven, over and over again. Their maturity has come from falling to sin, making stupid mistakes, lacking faith at times and then getting up again. I think of the Apostle Peter who frequently put his foot in his mouth. He would deny knowing Jesus, but would also preach the first Christian sermon at Pentecost. Failure is only bad when you do not learn from it.

2. You Know to Not Take Stories at Face Value
Often when we fail we create a story to make it not seem that bad. We try to tell of our failures in a way that paints us in the best possible light. We know this is true of ourselves and eventually we learn that it is true for everyone. Therefore, because of our mistakes, we have learned the truth about other people. We know that other people are struggling with issues greater than they will ever tell us.

3. You Can Accept the Truth Without Shock
I often wonder if Jesus was surprised when a tax collector, prostitute or sinner confessed their sins to him. Did he stare at them in shock and amazement? I highly doubt it. He knew the complete foolishness the human heart and mind are cable of doing. Having made numerous mistakes myself and then hearing other people share similar stories, I am rarely shocked by the human depth of depravity. We are all sinners in one crazy way or another.

4. You Are Full of Mercy and Grace
Once you hear those almost unbelievable stories of failure you respond with the love of Jesus. You are not judgmental and mean. You are not shocked or uncomfortable. You are not angry and frustrated. You are full of compassion because you understand that people are harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.

5. The Longer People Know You the More they Like You
Mature believers are a joy to be around. They are full of truth and grace. Some people can fake concern (usually for selfish gain), but they can only do it for so long. People with a truly deep faith are a joy to have in our lives and they continue that way forever.

The truth is that you need Church attendance, bible reading, prayer, service and giving in order to grow in your faith. The other side of that truth is that those activities should be transforming your character to be more like Jesus. If that is not happening then you are becoming more of a Pharisee than a Christian.