Today is Valentine’s Day. It is a day of love and roses and chocolates and gifts. But for my wife and I it is just another day. I don’t say that in an angry way and I do not mean it in a frustrated tone. I mean that for us it is simply another day to love one another.

Early on in my ministry my wife and I noticed couples who spent very little time together. They had separate lives with different friends and they spent much of their time apart. Then a holiday or anniversary would come and they would take a big trip or buy a big gift for one another. It appeared as if every special occasion was just a chance for the one to remind the other that they existed. So we determined that the best thing we could do for our marriage was to treat everyday as special.

We have tried to make a habit of telling each other “I love you” everyday. We try to do everything together besides work. We try to enjoy fun activities together that we each enjoy. She enjoys shopping and I go along. I enjoy fishing and she goes along. While we do not always enjoy what the other person enjoys we do love being together.

That is not to say that we do not buy any gifts or cards for each other. We simply have decided that true love is expressed everyday in time together, in kind words, in listening to each other and being friends. It is only accentuated by special days. The times we have had problems have not come from missing a special day, they have come from missing the everyday. Honestly, I would bet the same is true for you.

So today – Tell your spouse that you love them and show it to them some special way. But I also propose that you do that tomorrow and the next day and the next day and the …