This past weekend the Homer area Churches hosted Dr. Gary Chapman for a weekend conference entitled “The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted.” It was a great experience and I am going to draw a few observations out for this weeks series of blog posts. The first one actually preceded the conference.
In order for us to host this conference we needed to sell 300 tickets to break even with the expense. With only 10 days left before the conference we had sold only a little over 200 tickets. All of the pastors were a little concerned that we might not cover the costs and each of us could take a financial set back. I was telling this to a lady in my Church who is a psychologist/counselor. I told her what made this especially troubling is that a year ago another Church hosted a conference on parenting. They sold out a conference for 250 people and yet we could not get that many people for a marriage one.
Her response hit the nail on the head. She said something like this, “That is because our culture will do anything for our children, but our marriages usually get little attention.”
Wow. I think she is 100% correct. Most people spend far more time on their children than their spouse. As a result we have selfish, self-centered children and failing marriages. My plea to couples is simply a reflection of both of these thoughts. I say, “The best thing you can do for your children is to have a strong marriage.”
I think it works like this. First, I have a strong faith in God. That in turn makes me a better spouse. That in turn makes me a better parent. So to all the married parents out there I just want to remind them to make their marriage a priority. It is one of the best things you can do for your kids.