There is a difference between attending a Church and being a part of a community of faith called the Church.   

In one, a person sits to watch other people worship, and in the other, the person worships with people of like faith. 

In one, a person allows others to use their gifts to serve them, and in the other, the person uses their gifts to bless others. 

In one, a person wants other people to give of their resources so that they can have the programs to meet their needs, and in the other, the person gives their resources so that other people might be blessed through them.  

In one, a person expects people to be friendly to them, and in the other, they are a friend to other people.

In one, a person expects other people to make decisions that make them happy, and in the other, they take a risk by becoming a leader of other people. 

The list of comparisons is long and often subtle.  The difference between going to Church and being the Church is usually a change that cannot be seen without careful examination.  For a community of believers to become “your” Church, there are adjustments that need to be made.  It is not just a change in language but a difference in attitude and actions.