Counseling or Your Advice?

There is a difference between these two. 

When you are counseling, you are trying to be objective. It requires asking probing questions and carefully listening to the responses. You then make observations based on their information in a way that is the most helpful for the person. 

When you are offering your advice, you are embracing your bias. You use your experience and knowledge to help another person through a situation. You don’t ask many questions but spend your time speaking of how the other person should do things. 

There is a time and place for both. We will need to discern when it is proper to use the correct one. But, a fear of mine is that numerous Christians think they are a good counselor when they are really just dispensing advice. A wise counselor is hard to find.

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