This is the most crucial question anyone of us can ask.

It shows that we are interested in the other person. We are listening to their life stories and want to know more. We are inviting them to open up and share themselves in a way that will bring greater connection. 

It pushes back against selfish responses. There is a desire in us to share our stories and advice without engaging what someone just told us. We want to speak, and this question forces us to listen longer. 

It is a courageous question in the face of conflict. It invites us to hear more information that might be unpleasant at the moment. 

I challenge you to ask this question more this week. It alone will help you to build stronger relationships and break down barriers. Just know, it sounds easy, but it might also be one of the most challenging things you ever do.