Many believers could tell you the story of Genesis chapters one through three. God created the universe and world in which we live. He makes plants, animals, and humanity. He has one instruction rooted in obedience to him. Adam and Eve are not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. As you might guess, without even reading it, the man and woman cannot obey, and humanity is kicked out of the garden of Eden.
Religious people call chapter three of Genesis “the fall” and focus on the exchange between the serpent and the woman. While they are the center of the story, a third character is present but passive.
“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.” Genesis 3:6 – NIV 2011
Adam was with her, but he passively watched the events transpire. One fatal flaw of men that keep them from being all God desires is passivity. A man is called to be a leader in his home and with his family.
The flip side is that men have misunderstood what it means to be a leader. I have talked with women whose husbands demand they respect him. Unfortunately, their leadership amounts to either a dictatorship or a lot of shouting and anger.
A true Godly man is actively serving in their home – they are servant leaders. They love their wife like Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her. They are not passively waiting for her to make all the decisions for the family, then they can agree or disagree. Instead, they are out in front with dirty hands doing whatever their family needs.
The story of Genesis chapter three requires a man to lead his family spiritually by lovingly serving his spouse. Being a Godly man means that whenever evil comes calling, it is better to grab a hoe or rake and rid yourself of the evil than sit back and watch what happens and complain later about the mess others created.