Christmas Movies

I believe Christmas has some of the best movies to watch over and over again. They give us simple lessons in stories we can all identify with. I watch them myself, I enjoy them with my wife and I have used them to teach my kids. Here are my top 5 favorite Christmas movies and why.

5. Elf – I generally don’t like Santa Claus movies but this is the exception for me. I love Buddy’s joy in life and his desire to have a family, especially a father. The movie makes me smile and feel good about the holiday season.

4. A Christmas Carol – This is a timeless classic that has been redone thousands of time. The heart of the story is a transformation of character in light of death. What a powerful truth to reexamine every year.

3. The Grinch Who Stole Christmas – The idea that Christmas might be more than gifts. The idea that a heart can be changed inside of anyone. This is a classic transformation story that is done in a catchy and memorable way.

2. It’s a Wonderful Life – Do I need to say more? When the people are pouring their money out for George Bailey at the end I get a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye every time – even after 20 viewings.

1. Charlie Brown Christmas – Nothing beats Charlie Brown stopping in the middle of the movie to read the Christmas story from the gospel of Luke. The funny looking tree and the garbled voice teacher add to the fun, but it is the animated reminder of the true meaning of Christmas that makes this my favorite.

What would you add to the list and why? I know there are other funny and cute movies that I like, but these are my favorites for their spiritually redeeming qualities. I hope you enjoy the holiday and make time to sit down and watch one good movie as a family.

Blaze Your Own Holiday Trail

My wife and I tried to do it. We tried to make everyone else happy. When we first got married we would celebrate with my wife’s family on Christmas Eve and then have a Church Christmas Eve program. Then we would have our own personal Christmas late at night before going to bed. Finally we would get up early and head to my parents on Christmas morning. It was two days of run and visit and then run and visit and then run and visit. We continued this routine even while our children were young. It was exhausting and not really that enjoyable.

As a young couple and as young parents we felt like we had to make everyone else happy. Our families would be disappointed if we didn’t come – after all, we were their favorite:-) In an effort to visit everyone we left little room for ourselves. Our holidays were a blessing and a curse all rolled into one.

Then something happened. One year Christmas fell on Sunday. What were we going to do? I needed to preach and be with my Church and we had no time for travel. With a heavy guilt ridden heart I told my family that we would not be coming home for Christmas. My wife then told her family. We braced ourselves for the blow back and everyone was very understanding. Finally, Christmas came and something happened that we had never experienced. We woke up a little later, opened gifts, we went to worship and then came home for a nice quiet meal as a family. Without much planning we had the best Christmas ever.

With one good year under our belts we informed our families that we would not be able to do get together the next year. Again, they were disappointed, but very understanding. We immediately started planning an exciting Christmas experience with our boys. Instead of giving toys we purchased a night at a hotel with a water park and set out on a Christmas adventure. Since that time we have tried to make our own special Christmas each year. And it has been a wonderful undertaking.

We have gone to water parks, eaten pizza, rented movies, slept in, enjoyed small gift items, and done anything we wanted to do. Yes, we still enjoy getting together with our family but we try to do that on days other than the holidays. We have made Christmas a time we celebrate the birth of Jesus and spend time together as a family. In the last 10 years I have had moments where it would have been nice to see my parents but I have felt no regrets over blazing our own holiday trail.

So let me ask you: What are your holidays like? Do you spend all of your time trying to make everyone else happy? Do you feel miserable because of an overloaded schedule? What would happen if you scrapped everything you are suppose to do and started doing what you want to do?

My advice to any young couple is to create an experience that brings you closer together with God, each other and with your children. Family means well, but the road that runs from your house also runs to your house. If they want to be a part of my experience they can come to me as easily as I can go to them. Don’t be afraid to blaze your own trail, in the end it will often lead to a much happier place. I know it did for us.

Christmas Card Tips

As a Pastor I receive a number of Christmas cards every year. I receive them from the people where I serve now, from people in churches I have served through the years, from family and from friends. I get a number of cards and some of them have even become special to me. Through the years I have come to appreciate a great Christmas card and what makes them great – at least to me. So if you are going to send a card this year to show someone you care, here are my suggestions to you.

1. Pick a nice card. I usually can tell when I open the card if much thought was put into it. Many people send cheap cards that only communicate that they really don’t care about what they are doing.

2. Write something personal. DON’T JUST SIGN YOUR NAME. A cheap card can be redeemed with a nice personal note. A cheap card with only your name tells me that you sent this out of obligation and to clear your conscience. Take the time to write anything from a line to a paragraph to express your feelings and thoughts at the time.

3. A picture card is nice. With places like snapfish and winkflash and even Wal-mart you can get a nice picture card to send out that I can hang on my fridge. These might be my favorite for their enduring quality.

4. A family update letter is okay. Many people type up a letter that they print off and put in their card. It tells people what has happened in their life in a generic way. I like the idea but it can come off very generic. The other problem is that it is all about the people sending it (at least it can be). I would suggest that if you do these types of letters to try to hand write a personal line at the bottom of the page for the person receiving it.

5. “Including a gift card can be nice, but …” When did gift cards become a suitable gift? Usually a gift card costs me money. I mean I have to spend money over the amount of the card you gave me to use up the card. You are also forcing me to go some where I might not choose to go on my own. Anyway, they are definitely nice gestures but I am even more happy when I get cash:-) No wait, I mean I would rather you take the time to pick out a nice card and write a nice personal note to me and then include a picture of your family for my fridge (and not in a Christmas costume). The more thought and effort make it more meaningful to me.

Why does all this matter? Especially to a Pastor? Why do I care about your Christmas cards? Well, as Christians we are called to love one another and not simply fulfill an expected obligation. If you are truly wanting to connect to other people through this holiday time then a well thought out card can be a great tool. If you want to show people how much you care then send a great card that will touch someone’s heart. Love is often really found in the little things we do – like cards.

Worth Reading

Here are some of the great blog posts I have read in the last few weeks. Enjoy. And You’re Welcome!

Family –

1. The Santa Question at the Verge blog.

2. The Husband Code is a must read for all women, especially married women.

General Issues –

3. Five Inspiring Stories from 2014

4. John Stott’s Right Hand – I love stories about the people behind the celebrities.

Theology –

5. What is Forgiveness? from Jack Cottrell. Always great theology.

6. Exodus: Of Gods and Kings. How many people left Egypt with Moses?

Treasure Hunting

I once read an article that stated “We know more than I do.” The article has stuck with me not just because of its odd title, rather because of its simple point. Each one of us has an amount of knowledge we bring to a group. In a Church you may know more about things than I do and I may know more about some things than you do. Then end equation is that together we know more than any individual can know alone. One of the beautiful parts of Church is the pooled knowledge we have together.

With that said, I learned something from a Church member this week. I sat talking to a man and he told me about how he liked to treasure hunt. My ears perked up because I spend most Fridays out somewhere with my metal detecting looking for some treasure from days long past. Then he went on to explain what he meant. There is a lot of junk in the world. There are a lot of voices speaking ugly and negative words. There are way more discouraging thoughts being shared than positive ones. He learned from a preacher years ago that everyday you need to go treasure hunting. You need to be intentionally looking for the positive and encouraging words that build us up. Find those things in your life and treasure them up in your heart.

I love the idea. I am now not only spending my days off treasuring hunting, but everyday. A word properly spoken can bring great joy so may my mouth be filled with them and my ears be attentive to them. I hope and pray that the weeks ahead are full of treasure for you.

The Joy of ELF

Last night I started a new series of lessons for our teenagers entitled “Christmas at the Movies.” We are going to talk about “The Grinch Who Stole Christmas” and “A Charlie Brown Christmas” in the coming weeks, but last night we started with the movie “Elf.” About 90% of the teens in attendance raised their hand affirming they had seen the movie. If you have seen it then you know it is an off beat film with a far-fetched idea of a human boy raised by elves at the north pole until he finds out the truth at age 30. He then sets out on an adventure to find his real father and find his place in this world. It is a theme that resonates with teens and I thought it was a good place to start. Over the past 2 weeks I have watched all or part of the movie 4 times. I took extensive notes and did a Google search for what other people had said about it. I put together a pretty good list of ideas to talk about but landed on the topic of joy.

Joy is that attitude or emotion of great delight caused by something exceptionally good. Buddy the Elf has joy because he is associated with Christmas, the most wonderful day of the year. He loves to spread Christmas cheer during the holiday season. I believe as Christians we have more reason to be joyful than Buddy will ever know. We do not just see this time of year as an opportunity to give and be happy, Christians see this time of year we celebrate the birth of our Savior. The journey of grace in my life started in a manger over 2,000 years ago. God’s exceptionally good work began in a manger, then reached to a cross and finally into my life. The angels told the shepherds that the message of baby Jesus was one of great joy for all the people.

Buddy the Elf has a problem though. He, like many of us, has a number of kill joys in his life. We are surrounded by events and people who are constantly tearing away at the joy we have in Jesus. I especially think this is true at Christmas. It is easy to get on this roller coaster of emotions with every passing event of the holiday season. I didn’t share this info last night with the teens but it has been on my mind so I want to offer a couple quick thoughts to help this be the most joyous holiday ever.

1. Lower Your Expectations. You do not have to be Martha Stewart in your decorating and Rachel Ray in the kitchen. You do not have to have a Clark Grisswold light display that outdoes everyone in Whoville. Food will not always turn out. People will give lousy gifts. Your decorations will not be the best. That’s okay. The more we lower our expectations the more we can be surprised when things do turn out well.

2. Enjoy. Step back and enjoy each moment. You do not have to take pictures or videos of everything. Just sit and watch. You can even wait to open your gifts while watching other people open theirs first. Take time to live in the moment.

3. Rest. You do not have to do everything this holiday season. In fact, let me teach you a powerful word: “No.” You do not have to volunteer to do everything and be everywhere. You do not have to shop till you drop. You can tell people no and enjoy a quiet evening with your family drinking hot chocolate and watching “It’s a Wonderful Life.”

4. Plan. I believe that most people are on overload at Christmas because they fail to have a plan. Do you have a day set aside to rest? Do you have any plans for a date night with your spouse? Do you have plans for worship? Set down and look at your calendar and make some plans to do things that will grow your joy.

5. Pray. Everyday ask God to be with you this holiday season. Trust that He will take care of everything. Rest in the hands of His powerful plan. Ask God to make each day a blessing for His kingdom and for your life.

These are some simple tips I have used in my life. I know it is not an exhaustive list so maybe you have something to add. I do know that God wants us to be filled with joy as His followers. For most of us, we need to think through how that can happen in our lives, especially during the holidays. May God bless you and I hope this is a day you enjoy.

Ideas for Keeping Christ in Christmas

Yesterday I blogged about the idea that it is important how we celebrate Christmas. As Christians we believe “Jesus is the reason for the season” but I see many people who act quite differently. So – how do we keep Christ in Christmas? Here are some ideas I have collected.

1. Read the Christmas story out loud as a family. Read Matthew 1:18-2:12 or Luke 1:26-38 & 2:1-20 (or both) together as a family. Have the father or grandfather read it or maybe go the other way and have the kids read it. Keep this story a bigger part of Christmas than “The Night before Christmas”

2. Have a Birthday Party for Jesus. This is usually a big hit with small kids. One Church I know has a big program for kids on the afternoon of Christmas Eve to do this. I know of another family that does this first thing on Christmas morning.

3. Sing Christian Christmas Carols Somewhere. Songs like “Joy to the World” and “Silent Night” and “Away in a Manger” tell the story of Jesus in a powerful way. Go to the home of an elderly Church member or shut-in and stand on their lawn singing about Jesus. It is usually a great experience for all.

4. Go to a Candlelight Service Somewhere. Numerous Churches have some type of program on Christmas Eve – ours is 5:30-6:30 pm. Find one that fits your schedule and attend. Take an hour to worship, pray and commune together focusing on the story of Jesus.

5. Budget. I mean this two ways. For many of us Christmas gets bigger and bigger every year. This is not because we plan to do it that way, it is usually because we have no plan to keep it from getting bigger. Budget for gifts and focus on the personal gifts rather than expensive. The second side of this is that we need to budget some amount to give to those in need. Set aside some time and money to give to someone who has a real need. Maybe that is locally, nationally or even globally with groups like World Vision and Samaritans Purse.

???? What other ideas do you have to keep Christ in Christmas? Comments are open.

How You Celebrate

This past Sunday I started a new 4 week Sunday School class on the topic of Christmas. We are going to cover the Bible story the next two weeks and finish off by talking about Christmas traditions like Santa and trees. My first session was focused on the idea of Christmas. Why do we celebrate on December 25th? Honestly, we do not know the year, the month or even the day Jesus was born. We have little details about the day Jesus came into the world and yet we celebrate it globally every year.

With every passing year people in Church leadership, like myself, have increasingly bemoaned the fact that it is becoming more and more of a commercial holiday. So I posed this thesis to my class – “How we celebrate Christmas is just as important as who we celebrate.” Jesus may be “The reason for the season” but how we display that truth is extremely significant. Let me ask you a simple question, “Would anyone know you are celebrating the birth of Jesus just by watching you this Christmas?” “What are you doing to focus your life on the incarnation of God this holiday season?”

In the book of Romans chapter 14 verses 5-6 Paul tells the Church that one man can consider every day the same and another can consider certain days special and that is just fine as long as he considers them days set aside “to the Lord.” My prayer is that this Christmas season is set aside to the Lord and that He is celebrated in all that we do.

Handel’s Messiah

This week I started a new sermon series based on Isaiah 9:6. This verse is a prediction of the coming messiah and is a part of the Hallelujah chorus in Handle’s Messiah. If you have not seen this video (or one of the many like it) by a High School group called the Silent Monks then take a few minutes and enjoy.

Happy Thanksgiving

I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday weekend. I thank God for saving me. And I thank God for you.

Thanks for reading, thanks for your comments and thanks for walking with me on this journey of faith.

Numbers 6:24-26
“The Lord bless you and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.”