This Sunday I will preach another sermon. That comes as no surprise from a professional preacher. I usually speak at least 48 sermons a year not counting small group lessons, membership classes and special occasions.

With all the sermons that I deliver, I often feel like “these people have heard this all before.” Whenever I get that feeling, I remind myself that there is more than one way to hear a sermon.

1. Some sermons are designed for you. Some addresses are designed to teach, to encourage, to challenge, to remind and to reveal something new. Obviously one of the best types of sermons is those where you feel like you have grown as a Christian.

2. Some sermons say what you want to say. Several years ago, I learned that many people have the same thoughts, but only a few can articulate them well. This is one of the things I love about comedians. Many times they do not reveal any new truth, what they do is put into words the feelings I have held without saying them. Quite often a wonderful senior saint will tell me how good my sermon was that Sunday and I know they have heard all of that information before then, possibly many times. What they loved was that I said the words on their behalf to everyone.

3. Some sermons are for you to repeat. There are weeks that I teach the basics of the faith not just so that new people will hear it for the first time. It is also designed so that you will be able to turn around and effectively communicate it to your friends. I want to give you stories and explanations that you can use throughout your life to teach, encourage, challenge, and reveal truth to other people.

This week as you sit in the chair at whatever Church you attend I want you to ask yourself, “How should I hear this message?”

Each way requires a different set of ears. If you go only to listen for yourself, then you will have some very disappointing sermons. If you open yourself up to hearing the sermon in a new way, you may never be bored again. Well, that may be a bit of an exaggeration. 😊

I am not a prophet, but I am a student of the world around me. There are two pressure systems headed toward each other in our culture. The storm clouds are beginning to form, and I fear people do not see it happen. As a Church leader, I am primarily concerned about the shock waves that are about to be sent through the Church as some of the fallout has already started to happen.

We live in a world in which two polar opposites movements are happening.

First – we now have a generation of young men being raised immersed in pornography. The statistics say that over 90% have viewed the material and over 50% are doing it regularly. Those numbers are low by most surveys, and that is only of young people are telling the truth.

Second – we are also living at a time where men are being held accountable for actions concerning the sexual exploitation of women. Men everywhere, from politicians to preachers, are being called to account for their actions and words that are sexually degrading to women.

Do you see the problem with these two issues happening at the same time?

Men, especially young men, are going to be called into judgment for actions and words that they have been trained through pornography are okay. They think women are made to be exploited for their sexual desires and are shocked when they are rejected. This is going to have a significant impact on men of all walks of life, especially in the Church.

So is there anything Christians can do?

1. Teach young people about being made in the image of God. I do not have the time to touch on the significance of the Genesis stories, but there is a clear message about the value of humanity in those early chapters. We are all created in the image of God. Men need to know that women are not objects for their pleasure and women need to know that their life has value above their sexuality. Each person has value, just by being human.

2. Stand Again Pornography. I have been helping to lead youth groups for almost 25 years. This year I taught a series on sexuality and the evils of porn. It will now be a regular part of my yearly agenda. Be clear: most young people see nothing wrong with pornography. They need to be taught differently.

3. Parents must lead the way. Teach your children. Men you especially need to have difficult conversations with both your sons and daughters. Put restrictions on their electronics. Monitor their usage. Invest as much energy in their lives teaching morality as you do sports and academics. And never forget to pray for them.

4. Elevate the value of community. It is no secret that people are attending church less and less. I was told, right now the average person attends Church 1.7 times a month. We can now access religion 24/7, and we do not feel a need to make time to go to a Church meeting. The problem no one seems to see is that we are moving toward greater isolation. People are spending more time alone, and solitude is where sin grows the best. Believers need a community to change them, to hold them accountable and sometimes too merely draw people out of the rooms and into the presence of real people. Spiritual health is found only in community.

5. Continue to preach forgiveness and healing. Get yourself ready to be shocked. There are going to be revelations about men and their private lives coming that are going to be nearly unbelievable. Men are going to confess it addictions that led them to despicable behavior. Women are going to go public with stories of abuse that are going to be appalling. The Church is going to work toward those men and women finding healing and the grace of God. Forgiveness is going to be tested by the ugliness of sin.

6. Pray. Pray against the forces of evil. Pray for the power of good. Pray for our young people. Pray for your children and grandchildren. Pray for your church leaders. Pray for all those in positions of authority from schools to government. Pray, pray, pray.

There are so many more implications for believers and the Church. I am developing a list in my notebook of thoughts on this one single topic. I see a storm coming, and I hope the power of God will divert the impact, and some good will come out of these two movements. You are going to need to process this information in your family, your career and your Church.

One thing I do, I refuse to bury my head in the sand and act like nothing is happening. Each day I chose to work for good and to work against evil. I pray you will decide to join me as we head into the future together.

My wife and I are participating in a six-week long marriage small group through our Church. The group that we are involved with contains eight couples of varying lengths of marital commitment. The is the second marriage group with which we have connected in the past two years, and both have been both fun and educational. With each passing week, everyone begins to open up a little more and the bonds of friendship begin to form.

Throughout our time together I have noticed four traits of these couples with whom I am sharing my life.

1. Everyone Has Struggles. Don’t believe what your friends tell you or what social media portrays. No one has a great marriage. Everyone struggles, even Christian couples, some are just better at hiding it. I am honestly encouraged by this truth. The difference between couples that make it and those that don’t are not the struggles, but how they handle them.

2. Don’t Let Little Problems Derail You. Last night was perhaps the most important one for me. As we talked about the conflict in our marriages, it was clear that most of our struggles come from petty differences. People leave cabinets open, don’t pick up their clothes, put their junk on the table and a host of other things that annoy their mate. If left untended, these small problems become significant issues that can destroy a marriage. Remember that termites do more damage in America than tornadoes.

3. Keep Working On Your Marriage. It is such a joy to see a couple who have been married for over 50 years still attending a class to improve. Don’t ever stop working on your marriage. Talk, pray, read, participate, connect and do whatever it takes to keep your love alive.

4. Let Grace Infiltrate Your Home. I think the biggest difference between a Christian home and non-Christian one is the presence of grace and forgiveness. We all make mistakes, and we all have annoying little habits, but do we have the mercy to let them go in our spouse. Love in a home is important but equally significant is the kindness to let go of the bad and hang onto the good.

Each year I plan on being a part of a marriage group with members of my Church. These classes both challenge and refresh me. I think everyone needs to surround themselves with believers who can help them on their marital journey. If you cannot attend one, I hope these lessons will encourage you today.

I am always looking for ways to help people grow as disciples of Jesus. This quest has led me to conferences, books, and stacks of material to review. If there is a resource out there that will actually help people grow in their relationship with God, I want to use it. If someone has found a set of tools that work better than what I am using, then I want to know about it.

There are some ways in which this quest has been productive. I have learned about small groups and many of the dynamics needed to make them work. I have learned about studying and serving as means of growth. I have utilized numerous resources to help people, and other people have told me of material that has helped them.

Unfortunately, through the years I have noticed that many people grow through adverse conditions. There are ugly periods in our lives that might prove more valuable to us than any other tool we use.

1. Silence. Have you ever prayed and prayed only for seemingly no response? Daily you lay out your requests before God and nothing appears to change? Sometimes this lasts for a week and other times for a month and sometimes for a year or more. It is a difficult situation when your prayers do not see any immediate results. But I have watched people change through these silent seasons. They learn to trust when things are not working out the way they had hoped. Patience and endurance of faith are developed. Hope grows, and a more profound commitment forms in the heart of a person when God is silent.

2. Disappointment. There are times in life when things do not go the way we planned. You expected good things during this phase of your life, and the reality was less than excellent. The job didn’t work out as you planned. Your marriage is struggling, and your kids are not superstars in any way. You thought life would be so much more by now and it just is not. In seasons like these, I see people readjust their expectations. They find joy in the moment or in the little blessing God gives them. They look for lessons that God might be teaching them and then apply them to their life in new and exciting ways.

3. Pain. This can come in many forms. It can be physical or emotional pain. It can be something you are going through or something someone you love is experiencing. No matter what the situation these painful moments force us to rely on God. They remind us how little control we have in this world. Pain can underline our need for God and the hope we find in him. It can point us to things of eternal significance in a way we never expected. I have seen people grow through pain when nothing else seems to work.

Nobody wants these situations to help them grow. Nobody wants silence or disappointment or pain in their life. Honestly, we want growth to be easy and fun. We want smiles and joy all the way to Jesus. I hope you have those things, but when you find yourself in these difficult times of life, God is not abandoning you, I think he might be stretching your faith.

It is possible that moments in life like these can push you away from God. You can see the glass as half empty and God as mean for not giving you want you want. These can be seasons when you shrink instead of growing in faith.

There is a choice in every phase of life. The difficult thing you are experiencing right now, might not be as bad as you think. In fact, it might be the time that brings you closer to God. The choice is up to you.

Yesterday the Church celebrated Resurrection Sunday, also called Easter. It is a big day for believers as we focus our attention on the work of Jesus on the cross and his resurrection on Sunday morning. There are special programs, and even many non-believers will show an interest in spiritual things for one day.

The stories found in the gospel accounts give us lengthy reports of that Sunday. The grave is empty, and angels appear. Jesus speaks with Mary Magdalene in the garden by the tomb. Two travelers on the road to Emmaus have an encounter that takes most of the afternoon. Jesus himself appears to the disciples that night minus Thomas and Judas. That Sunday is full of people spending time with the resurrected Jesus in amazement and disbelief.

Then comes Monday morning. Do you realize we have no account of Jesus doing anything on Monday? In fact, the next story we are told in the writing of John is one week later when Jesus appears to the disciples with Thomas present this time. For the next six days after the original account, we have no stories of anything happening. We have no idea where Jesus went for those days or what he did while he was there.

I sometimes wonder if this is a strategic move by Jesus. He knows people will be caught up in the excitement of the resurrection, but they will need a week to process the implications. There must be time for questions to develop and ideas to solidify in their minds.

1. If the resurrection of Jesus is real, is this the most significant event in history?

2. If Jesus is alive and death is defeated, what does that mean for us?

3. If Jesus defeated death, how are we to approach death as his follower? Maybe a better question is about how we should approach life.

4. If Jesus death paid for our sins, how should our forgiveness change us?

5. If Jesus is alive, nothing can defeat his work and mission, so maybe I should join his cause.

Maybe the thoughts get real practical. If Jesus is alive again, then how are we supposed to approach our work, parents, spouse, children, and even our free time? If Jesus was indeed dead and now is alive again, then everything in the world has changed. As a follower of Jesus, I have numerous things to process about my life and actions.

Perhaps Jesus gives people space to work out the meaning of his resurrection for their own life. Maybe that is where you find yourself today, or quite possibly you should be there. Today is a good day to ask yourself a fundamental question. How should my life be different if Jesus was raised from the dead?

I know this weekend will be busy for many people. Churches will have special programs to fill any time that is not spent with family and friends. If you do have a few spare minutes, here are some of the best articles I have read lately. Lots of good stuff. I hope you enjoy them and have a blessed Easter weekend.

8 WAYS TO PRAY FOR EASTER WEEKEND EVENTS

No, Easter Isn’t Pagan, Either An interesting and thought-provoking article about the true history of the word Easter.

How the Resurrection Reshapes Success and Regret

Why are There no Chairs inside the Tabernacle? – interesting little observation on the work of a priest.

Why Before-After Testimonies Aren’t the Only Ones That Matter

The Simple Reason Why So Many Christians are Miserable

ON BEING A MILLENNIAL PASTOR – LEADERS WHO DON’T REMEMBER THE GLORY DAYS – A fascinating read for Church leaders young and old.

oh father, where art thou – an interesting post on the role of the father in faith with a side note for parents of autistic children.

The week leading up to Easter has been traditionally called “Holy Week.” It is the time of the year we celebrate Maundy Thursday as the night of the Last Supper and Jesus institution of Communion. We remember Good Friday as the day Jesus died on the cross for the sins of the world. We draw attention to Holy Saturday as a time of quiet reflection as Jesus body lay in the grave so many years ago. Then we reach the pinnacle of the week with Easter Sunday morning as we celebrate the resurrection of Jesus from the grave.

This is a week set aside in the mind of believers as an extraordinary week in the Christian calendar. It is a time for reflection, celebration, and praise. It is a week to focus on God and the work of Jesus Christ.

So why do I not feel so holy this week? Why does it seem like just another ordinary week?

Maybe it is because Easter has come a little earlier on this year’s calendar? Perhaps it is because of the weather this year? All the cold and rain along with snow in some areas makes it still feel like winter. Quite possibly this feeling is the result of my own life. My days are full of work, the boy’s school, and my regular springtime activities. Whatever the reason my week has felt Not-So-Holy to me.

Today I am reflecting on my week and my not-so-holy feelings. Here is some good news I see …

1. Jesus did not come and die to save only religiously excitable people. This week was not about setting up a religious holiday for believers who are full of joy. It is about Jesus dying on the cross for sinners such as I. It is a week for people whose lives are a mess finding Jesus is the Messiah. This week is a call to become holy, not just for those who are holy already.

2. God’s gracious work has nothing to do with my feelings. A preacher I like says, “Remember some things are true even when you are asleep.” His point is that the truth of God is not dependent on what I think or feel about it. The cross and resurrection are unchanging truths. Jesus great work still saves me, especially when I do not feel holy.

3. The joy of Easter is always unexpected. I am sure that the first Sunday of Easter was not filled with expectation and joy. The ladies went to the tomb to anoint the body and grieve. The disciples were slumbering in confusion created by the cross. That Sunday morning opened a door out of the mundane into the world of forgiveness with little warning.

So maybe you are like me. This week has not felt like anything special. I think that is just fine. God still did his mighty work in Jesus. The events of this week are extraordinary, no matter how I feel about them. Who knows, maybe in the middle of my seemingly average week, God will break in and do something special in my life. He frequently comes at unexpected moments. Suddenly our feelings change, and the world seems different.

I hope you have a wonderful week. I sincerely hope it is filled with joy. More than anything I want you to anchor your life to the message of the cross and the empty tomb, even when you don’t feel like it. And who knows what God may do this weekend if we open our life up to him.

Recently our Church hosted its first Senior Citizen’s luncheon as an opportunity for our older generation to spend some time together. It was a wonderful time of food and fellowship. I then offered a short devotional thought and a few announcements about our Easter programs. Finally, I asked the big questions, “Does anyone else have anything they would like to know about?”

Quickly a response came from a lady asking if everyone would take a minute to introduce themselves and say one or two things about their lives. One by one we went around the room, and each person took an opportunity to speak. Many of the people mentioned marriage and family details while several made comments about the Church.

I am happy to say that most of the people are enjoying my ministry and the sermons I give each week. They felt the worship program on Sunday morning was a blessing, and they stayed with the Church because of it. But that is not all people stated they liked about our community of believers. The other response given was that the people of the Church were friendly. Upon their first visit, they were greeted with kindness and warmth, often like an old friend.

My mind reached two conclusions about the ministry of the Church.

1. It doesn’t matter how good the preaching or the worship program is each week if the people are not friendly.

2. It doesn’t matter how friendly a Church is each week if the people are not taught the Bible in a way that challenges and encourages them.

A Church does not reach people with the gospel of Jesus if either of these parts of the Church is lacking.

The reason I draw your attention to these simple truths is that Easter is this Sunday. I have been planning and preparing the best sermon I can preach. I have spent hours reading, thinking, praying and preparing so that people will be blessed by the worship and the word. My part is done. If you do not attend the Church I lead, I am sure you preacher has done the same. This day has been circled on their calendar for months, and they have done their best work this week.

This leaves only one part of the equation left to make this work. That is your part. One of the most significant ways you can make an impact for the kingdom of God this weekend is to be friendly. Take time to speak to strangers. Introduce yourself and ask questions. Smile and be polite.

A Church does not reach people merely through one person with a good sermon. It takes everyone working together to make a difference for Jesus.

A simple conversation with a teenager about their attendance at youth functions at the Church provided an interesting revelation. The teenager who was no longer present at events argued that they didn’t need to attend as they “knew all those Bible stories pretty well.” They were looking for something more practical than just relearning the same old stuff.

Honestly, I do understand their frustration. It can seem like we preach and teach on the same passages in the Bible frequently. There is the flood, the coat of many colors, the exodus, Jonah, Gideon, Samson, David and Goliath and a handful about Jesus.

I also think this person was completely wrong. They knew about some stories in the Bible, but they had no idea concerning the meaning. Take Jonah for example. I am sure most people can tell you the basic narrative. Jonah ends up in the ocean and is swallowed by a whale. Simple enough to understand, now let’s move on to something else. I would argue that if that is all you know, then you have no idea what the story is really teaching us. In Jonah, we have a man disobeying God, God’s mercy through ugliness, a second chance for Jonah, God’s love for outsiders, God’s grace and a believer’s ugly heart. There is so much in that one four-chapter book that can impact our thinking about God, ourselves and others. That one little Old Testament story helps us understand the Gospel and why Jesus came to earth. It provides us with the metal tools to shape our attitudes and our actions. By believing that upon hearing a Bible story they had mastered it, they totally missed the point.

The Bible is not a storybook that provides us with nice tales to keep the kids entertained. It is a series of books that reveal the nature of God, people and how they both interact. While I am all for practical teaching that is relevant to life. We need to have a solid understanding of theology from which our actions flow. Missing the lessons from what is being taught will lead us to all kinds of misinformation, wild conclusion, and unwise actions.

So, the next time you read or hear a story from the Bible, listen carefully. Lean in and ask some big questions. What does the passage actually say? What does the story mean? What are we supposed to learn about God from this? What are we to better understand about ourselves? How would our world be different if we lived in light of the truth of this passage?

Maybe one of the problems in our world is that we have no real concept of what God is trying to communicate to us through these ancient writings. Perhaps we have assumed we knew the truth and we only know rumors and conjecture.

I want everyone to know the stories of the Bible, but I certainly hope it does not end there.

The Apostle Paul writes to the Church in Ephesus, and he has a section about the structure of the Church. This leads him to the goal of Christian maturity. In that area, he makes a statement about an action those in Christ take when they are on this road to becoming a complete believer. Ephesians 4:15 says that we should be “speaking the truth in love.”

This verse came to mind as I saw a couple walking the other day. I know the couple’s story, and I also know all the statistics about their behavior. They are making enormous mistakes, and it is obvious to me, and I am sure several other people. Watching them and knowing the path they are on led me to this question: “Who is going to speak truth into their life?” Suddenly a series of thoughts ran through my head that made this conversation complicated.

1. Speaking the truth can be cold. Sure, some people love to speak the truth. They can be mean-spirited and do not care about you personally. In fact, many will use the truth as a weapon. They know if they say the right thing at just the right time it can puncture a hole in your life and wound you deeply. They know the truth, and it is cold information that can bring the pain.

2. Speaking in love can be soft. I imagine there are people in your life who care about you deeply. Their love is so profound that they will not tell you the truth for fear of hurting you or the relationship. This is why in most marriages the spouse is not honest with their mate. A spouse, especially people early in their marriage, will never say anything negative unless it is a weapon in a fight. The people closest to us, love us too much to tell us anything we are doing is wrong. No one wants to risk their meaningful connection with other people over a harsh truth. It does not just happen in marriages, but with parents and children, friends and anytime you put people together.

3. Speaking the truth in love is rare. This is such a complicated issue for people. How do you tell someone the truth and yet let them know you are saying it because you care? I do now have all the answers to that question, but I know it needs to happen. Maybe you develop safe places and times where anything can be said without ramifications. Perhaps you go to a counselor who can help mediate a conversation. I know I do this as a pastor occasionally. Whatever method you chose, you need someone to speak the truth to you in love.

All these thoughts went through my head about this couple I saw walking, and then the conversation in my head took another turn? Who is there in my life who is willing to speak the truth in love? I need to know when my problems are increasing. I need someone to point out to me when I am walking the wrong path. I need to know the truth without it being used to hurt me.

The reality is that all of us need a few people in our lives who can live out this one command. We need people willing to speak the truth in love to us. As a Christian, I would say those people need to be believers. People who care about you personally and spiritually are vital to you reaching your full potential for God. Who is there like this in your life? Who is there in mine?