We often judge people based on where we think their life should be. 

The problem is that we don’t know where people are on their journey with God. Some people that we feel should be better Christians have already come a long way individually.

People may not be as spiritual as we would like them, but compared to where they were, they are doing fantastic.

Gary Chapman introduced the world to the “Love Languages.” This is the idea that each one of us feels love in our unique way. There are five basic language types that everyone uses to experience love. 

One of those is “Words of Affirmation.” This means what the people closest to you have to say about and to you touches your heart deeply. If you are married, you desire for your partner to say things that build you up and demonstrate your worth to others.

This is not my love language, but recently I discovered something which might be true of others. While I do not need words of affirmation, I am wounded by words of non-affirmation. Some people need to hear you speak about their value and worth; on the flip side, people like me do not want to listen to critical and mean-spirited things.

It is not that I am afraid of constructive criticism or rebuke when I need it. Instead, it is how much it hurts me when those things are presented in a destructive way. So, for example, I respond to a coach who tells me how to improve rather than one who yells at me about what I did wrong.

The old saying is, “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.” Some people crave affirmation, and others need you to avoid your non-affirming words.  

When you read a Bible story, with whom do you most identify?

Are you always Jesus, Paul, or a disciple? Are you always the hero in the story who stands full of faith? If you are the bad person, is it only because you find redemption by the end of the story?

One tip for reading your Bible and understanding the stories more completely is to attempt to put yourself in the other character’s shoes. Ask yourself, “What was life like as a Pharisee?” and “Why would I be upset at Jesus?” Sometimes take the position of a non-believer and imagine what it was like to see Jesus perform a miracle or hear Paul preach for the first time. 

Most of us have been reading the Bible from one vantage point for so long that we no longer consider how the other people in the story feel. Which ultimately leads us to forget how the people around us feel when they encounter faith.

People are not one-dimensional, and reading the scriptures from one viewpoint will limit our ability to understand the full impact of Jesus on everyone.

As this person walked to the stage to speak, a small group applauded. However, the person had not said anything to garner the cheers of the audience, so at first; I was confused. Then as they started talking, it began to make sense; this group of people had shown up in support of the speaker as they attempted to do something unfamiliar to them for Christ.

After a young person had spoken one Sunday morning, several people said something similar after worship. They all complemented this person’s bravery to stand up and speak for the first time. It was clear that they were nervous, and honestly, it was a hurried speech, but everyone I talked to was very supportive.

It was their first time leading worship. It didn’t all go smoothly, but it went okay for their first attempt. When they finished, I watched as the remaining people on the worship team went up one by one and expressed their appreciation for them stepping out and being a leader.

Christians often get nervous at the prospect of doing something new for the Lord. What will people say? What if it doesn’t go well? What if I fail miserably and make a fool of myself? What if I am an embarrassment to the kingdom of God? These concerns and fear keep us from stepping out in faith and trying something for God’s glory.

In all my years of ministry, I have only seen support and encouragement when a person stands up in the faith. Church people are genuinely excited about this step of faith and praying for the best. Oh sure, a few fringe people and outsiders might criticize, but mature Christians are cheering for them. I often say that the most supportive group of people you will ever address are those in the Church.

Too many people stand on the sidelines of faith, waiting to use their gift because they fear how others will react. I am here to tell you we are all here cheering for you.

The older man had a sign that he was carrying around. He had another one taped to the outside of the small suitcase he was pulling behind him. Later in the parking lot, I saw his car. It had the same sign hanging in both back windows of his vehicle – one man with four different signs and all with the same message. 

“Treat Everyone Like Jesus.”

I do not know the backstory. I could not quickly find anything about it on social media. There were no explanations, brochures, video links, or sermons: just an elderly man and his signs.

I have been thinking about him for days now. I wish I had taken the time to talk to him. I wish I had invited him out for a meal or coffee. I wish I had asked his story and why he carried the sign. I wish I had gotten to know him so that I could tell you the rest of the story.   

Unfortunately, I was too busy. I was rushing from one thing to another: so much to do and so little time to finish it. I saw him standing there and walked by without hesitation. A quick mental note about the sign and on with my day.

In reflection, I thought Jesus would have probably stopped and talked to him. Sadly, I am no Jesus; then again, maybe that is not the point. Perhaps he was Jesus to me that day. But who has time to think about that?

Developing disciples of Jesus is nothing like killing snakes.

Imagine you walked into the shed behind your house, filled with venomous snakes. Our natural reaction would be to go after them with all our energy. There would be no plan other than to destroy the one who threatened to harm us. We would randomly swing our rake in all directions to keep the creatures at bay. We would aim to make it out of the situation alive and undamaged. 

Sometimes I watch new believers go about discipleship the same way. We want to be like Jesus and go after it with all our energy. We have no plan other than to attend whatever event is closest to us. We listen and read anything labeled “Christian,” hoping to learn as fast as possible. Our goal is to make it through this life and spend eternity in heaven.

Discipleship is not like killing snakes. Instead, it is a long slow process. It requires day-by-day attention to our souls. It is intentional without being hurried. We plan to gain knowledge and practical advice from those who have gone before us. We are mentored and equipped in the service of the Lord. Our goal is to become like Jesus until we can spend our days with him. In the meantime, we will help other people become better disciples too. 

I love the energy and excitement of a new believer. I wish I could bottle it up and share it with those who have followed Jesus for a lifetime. But their exuberance for faith is often like killing snakes; the sad result is that it usually ends up killing them.

I hope you are excited to become all that God desires for you but walk the path slowly and methodically with a clear end in mind. Quite often, slow and steady wins the race.

Humans love to label and categorize things, including people. We do this in dozens of ways, from simple descriptions like introvert and extrovert to intensive psychological tests. Personally, I have taken temperament analysis tests and drawn out my thinking related to animals. All of these are simply an attempt to get to know people better. If we can label people, we hope to understand their behavioral patterns and predict future encounters.

Unfortunately, no one fits into the neat little boxes we create. Everyone has a unique experience and personality. No two people are alike, no two situations are the same, and no one can accurately predict what will happen in any encounter. 

It is even more complicated when we add the “God factor.” People who believe in God understand that he can empower a person, and they can become an entirely new creation.

How would things be different if we got to know people instead of labeling them? What would happen if we looked past how others classified people and tried to get to know the wonderfully unique person that God created?

People will often defy our logic and break through all our categories, which is what makes them worth knowing. People desperately want to be fully understood by others, but that can only happen if we accept their individuality and forget their labels.   

Your journey of faith has value to other people. 

Often we are embarrassed by the twists and turns on our walk with God. There were times we turned our backs and seasons of poor choices where we felt more like a prodigal than a prodigy. We went through periods where our faith was small, and our thoughts about God were infrequent. There are multiple days we would like to hide in the past and never speak about again.

Those experiences of failures, along with your successes, are what made you the person we see today. When you share those parts of your story, you will find it helps others on their journey. Sometimes it warns about wrongful thinking and how it can hurt us. Other times it will encourage people who are also struggling on their journey. Still, other tales will inspire, challenge and help people as they live their faith. 

Your story is powerful, even with all its bumps and bruises. Scratch that, especially because of its bumps and bruises. 

Last week I attended a conference at my alma mater. The emphasis of the week was the unsung heroes in the Bible. Some Bible characters are mentioned in passing, yet they impact the overall narrative of the scriptures. 

Each session started with 2-3 worship songs led by a band from the college. A few songs were unfamiliar, but the students were singing loudly, and I found it uplifting every time I could hear hundreds of voices singing their praise to God. 

I sat in the back of the auditorium for one session to get a view of the entire building. That is when I noticed the guy running the lights in the sound booth. He was unlike anyone I had ever witnessed serving in the media center during a worship program. He stood up and sang along, often raising his hands and moving with the music. At times he appeared to be shouting out the lyrics from the very back of the auditorium. He was pouring his heart into worship, and only a few people in the back row, like me, even saw him.

This incident reminded me that true worship is not something we do for others to see; it is the unseen act of praising God while no one else is watching. It is not reserved for Church and conference gatherings. It can be done anytime and anywhere you feel the urge to do it. Don’t wait for Sunday morning or to be in the presence of others to worship. God sees your heart whenever and wherever you lift your voice to him. 

Recently I heard a man stand up during a sermon and read a speech from Theodore Roosevelt. It was initially called “Citizenship in a Republic” but has become known as “The Man in the Arena” speech. It was delivered in Paris on April 23, 1910.

The preacher I heard read these words did it slowly and methodically. He read it to people who are Church leaders with an emphasis on their work in the world as citizens of the kingdom of God.

So to you, servant of God, I share these words for you serving in the arena.

“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither knows victory nor defeat.”