I swore that I would never do it again. I made mental promises to God and with myself. I would not act that way EVER again.

And then I did it anyway.

This time it only took a week. I broke my promise to myself just that quick.

It seems no matter how much I commit myself not to feel that way, think that way or act that way, I fail.

The problem of humanity, ALL of it (including religious leaders), is that we are flawed people. We are not intrinsically good; we only have good intentions. Sometimes we like to judge ourselves by our intentions rather than our actions, but those are not true. If we use a proper measuring rod, we will find we are not good people. I know I am not. I cannot even live up to my own standards.

The message of the Bible affirms this truth. Jesus did not come to call together a bunch of good people to go out and do good works. He went to a cross for sinful people. He died for ungodly people like me and like you. Faith in Jesus reminds me that I am not a good person, and I desperately need a savior. Despite my best intentions, I always break my deals with God and with myself.

Recently I made a new deal with myself. Every time I fall short of God’s desire, I remind myself of grace. I then ask God for the power I need to stop my behavior. I need his grace, and I need his strength to change me. For me to overcome my sin, I need something far more significant than myself, no matter how many promises I make.

The primary illustration I used to explain being transformed by Jesus is that of a mirror. It goes like this: when we look toward God, we see ourselves appropriately reflected in his words. This reflection may at first show us significant flaws. From a distance, we understand that our hair needs cut, and clothes cleaned. Once we fix those things, we move closer to the mirror and notice more problems. Generally, we fix the more major concerns first, and the lesser ones follow. At first glance, everything may look just fine, but a long look reveals more places of improvement.

The mirror serves as an illustration of Christian sanctification, or the work of transformation in the life of a believer. At first, we work on the big problems in our lives and continually work at improving everything, even the minor details. That is why when you hear a believer talking about struggling with things like pride and humility, you think, those are so minor. They might be to you, but to them, it is a glaring issue that must be addressed.

Following Jesus involves worshipping him, proclaiming his grace and living in light of his eternal promise. It also requires self-examination. We must look carefully at his word and then look deeply at ourselves. Then we address any issues that keep us from looking like Jesus.

The three temptations that we each face. First, is to never look into the mirror. If we do not look, then we will never see anything to change. Second, is to look too quickly and never see anything wrong. We never notice the little areas that need our attention. Finally, we look to see ourselves and then look away and ignore any problems. At least we are not as bad as some people.

Just as I start each day by looking in my bathroom mirror to make sure I am presentable to the world, I must also look into the word of God to make sure I am pleasing to him.

You can choose to surrender to God’s will on your own, or he can create circumstances to force the issue.

Humility can be developed voluntarily, or God can knock you down and break your pride. Serving can be a joy and pleasure, or God can put you in a position where there is no other option. Things of real value can be seen through daily reflection, or God can take everything away, making you see life differently. Obedience can come through submission or punishment.

I am not saying that God will force any ideal or attitude upon you. I am confident that he can change your circumstance in an effort to open your eyes.

Reading the Old Testament, I see God bless Israel, then make life more complicated, then send prophets to warn them, then take them into captivity, then promise them a future and finally bring them back. All that action was God trying to teach his people to follow his will.

There are two ways to live in faith. One is the easier way that requires us to surrender our will daily. The other is to have God force our lives into some painful circumstances to open our eyes and possibly change our wills.

Which path will you choose?

Talk with any pastor, and he will tell you about a time that he believed his sermon bombed and yet someone responded to faith. The preacher felt they had failed in their job, and God was using it to guide people.

Talk to anyone who has been a believer for very long, and they will tell you about a time when God showed up unexpectedly. They went through a difficult season, and looked back at how it grew their faith, connected their family, and helped them to see God’s love in a more significant way.

Talk to people who have experienced pain, and they are able to look back and see something good. They never expected this time of trial to produce anything positive, but sure enough, it happened.

The temptation for everyone who follows Jesus is to give up when we fail, feel empty, or hurt. And yet, the longer I am a pastor, the more I see how God uses these events in ways we never imagined.

Today I want to remind you that God is still working no matter what you are going through – relational conflict, physical or emotional pain. Whatever form your struggle and hurt come in, it is not too big for God to make something powerful happen. Hold on, remain faithful, endure, stand firm, persevere, press on toward the goal, keep the faith, and fight the good fight of faith. God is still working.

Everyone longs for a sense of independence. My children each went through a phase where we would try to help them, and they would respond with, “By self.” They wanted to do everything for themselves with no help from dear old mom and dad.

That childhood longing for independence never seems to fade. Teenagers wait for the day they have a car and the freedom to do things on their own. Young adults look forward to moving out of the house and having their own schedule. Then they look forward to their own job, money, home, and family. The faint echo of “By self” carries us into life as an adult.

The problem is that these independent, head-strong people come to Church. This is the place where we are challenged to “die to ourselves.” Our world is no longer about what we want, but rather about the cause of Christ. It is no longer I that lives, but Christ who lives in me. To be a faithful Jesus follower, you must submit your will to his, and his purpose supersedes your desires. One question that stretches our faith is, “What do I need to surrender to Jesus?”

This issue discovers a new arena for us to grow when we come together as a Church community. Now I must submit my will to Jesus but also for his body. We are called to surrender our will to Jesus for the good of the group. I find that most people find it incredibly challenging to give up their desires for the Church body. They want independence in their connection with other believers.

A couple of examples, people want to park in whatever space they want to park. Don’t tell me to park away from the building so our elderly and guests can have the most accessible spots. Also, people want to sit wherever they want to sit. I encourage them to sit near the front so that late-comers and guests can have the back rows. These are just a couple of the long list of things that each believer can do to make their Church better for guests and those with special needs. And yet, much of what I tell people falls on deaf ears.

I believe that one of the steps on your journey of spiritual growth is the death of independence. It is the silencing of those juvenile cries of self. Maturity is asking yourself if this what Jesus wants me to do and the best thing for his body. Jesus told his followers to take up their cross daily. Today is another one of those days. This weekend is one of those weekends.

Your legacy is something you leave behind for the next generation. For you, this might be a financial gift or a pile of possessions. I want to suggest to you that there is something spiritual that you can leave behind as well. I believe your life can touch the lives of numerous people for the kingdom of God.

What I have noticed lately is that most people’s journey with Jesus looks less like a highway and more like a collection of country roads. People do not walk a straight path with God from the day they meet Jesus until heaven. There is not one person who influences, teaches, and instructs them on the ways of faith and serve as their primary mentor.

Instead, most people grow in their faith by walking one road and then taking a right turn on another and then a left turn here and on and on. Their path winds through multiple Churches throughout their life. They receive direction from numerous individuals over the journey. There was that one Sunday school teacher, that elder, a preacher, a traveling teacher and a myriad of other influences. Step by step, people mold our lives in meaningful ways, and some of them never know it.

All of us have a legacy of faith that was left to us. We are the result of people giving of themselves to others for Jesus sake. It is always interesting to walk back through our lives and see the twist and turns that brought us here. With each move, there was often someone who pointed us the right direction to go.

All of us are also leaving a legacy of faith. We are helping people move closer to God in our own small way. If you allow God to use your life, you will have an impact that leads others toward eternity. You may never see a person move from non-believer to heaven-bound saint, but you might be able to point them down the proper path for the next mile. Your legacy will be that of someone who helped others move closer to Jesus.

The issue is that they are invisible. No one is sure where they are located without a marker.

My neighbors and I share an imaginary line between our homes. They mow and take care of the grass up to the location where they believe it exists. I do the same.

This arrangement works well for us because I have decent neighbors. They are not trying to take extra property for themselves, and they are not doing anything to hurt our relationship. We all get along and have no real issues.

This situation will only become a difficulty when one of them does something to harm my life and well-being. If they become destructive to my property or cause issues to my family or me, then I will have to reinforce the boundary and make sure they stay on their side.

Your heart and mind function in the same way as your property. There are numerous areas in which you have no problems, so no clearly defined boundary is needed. When something infringes on our good nature, then you must respond. This can be difficult to do as the dividing lines have been blurred for so long, we might not remember where they are located.

I guess that your biggest spiritual struggles are connected to places where the boundaries are unclear. Is one cuss word too many? Are two or three drinks too much? Is talking intimately to a member of the opposite sex okay if you are married? Is one sexual image too many to view? Is it a good idea to miss worship two or three times a month? The list goes on and on.

One way to improve your life is to develop clearly defined lines of behavior. Sometimes a surveyor and a secure fence will prevent issues from happening in the future. Invisible boundaries are fine until they are not.

Is the same problem it is has been since the beginning of time.  They lack the experience that brings knowledge. 

They only see the beginning of things.  They do not envision the end of the road.  They don’t wholly comprehend where some of the paths in life lead. 

For example, young people rush into drinking alcohol because they have never sat with a 50-year-old alcoholic who has lost everything.  Their spouse has left them, and their children despise them.  Their pain is greater than the years they have spent pursuing pleasure. 

They take considerable risks in many areas of life because they have never seen someone lose everything.  They have never been witness to the destruction that comes with taking the wrong road.   

The first steps of the path we take are always fun and stimulating.  When you do not see any immediate consequences, we can begin to think there are none.  Unfortunately, many of the paths that people tread lead to dark and awful places. 

Wisdom is the ability to think through the possible conclusions to the choices you are making.  It involves asking yourself, “Where does this behavior lead me in the coming years?” 

Honestly, there is no problem with young people today.  They suffer from the same issue anyone can face.  Anyone can live with short-sightedness.  It is dangerous to think that nothing bad will ever happen to us.  You don’t have to be young to make foolish decisions. 

The way of the wisdom is for anyone willing to look far enough ahead to be sure they are on the right path. 

Rarely do people drive out their friends to show them the foundation that was just poured for their upcoming house. Your friends and family don’t care about concrete forms, cinder blocks, and drainage plans.

No one has ever invited me into their home and immediately bragged out the foundation of their house. No, they usually show off big kitchens, walk-in closets, and elegant bathrooms.

Nothing is appealing about a foundation, and no one really cares. That is until there is a crack. When the ground settles, shoddy workmanship is exposed, or a natural disaster causes a failure in the foundation, then nothing could be more critical.

While no one talks about it, brags about it or shows it to their friends, the foundation is the most crucial part of a building. If it goes, the whole structure comes down. The kitchen, the closets, and the bathroom have no value on top of a shaking foundation.

The same is true in life. The things you build your life upon are not always exciting, but they are essential. Fancy homes, expensive vacations, and lots of recreational toys mean little when the foundation of your life is crumbling.

What God offers us through our faith in him is not always flashy and will not impress many people. The real question of your life is not, “Is it appealing to others,” but rather, “Will it stand firm when the ground shifts and the storms come?”

Back on March 8th, I shared some Church Leadership Thoughts from a consultant named Dave Jacobs. Dave spends numerous hours working with Churches all over the country from different denominations through coaching calls. After most of these calls, he then posts a “coaching takeaway” for a group of pastors on social media. Here are ten of the best ones I have read over the past few months. They apply far beyond just Church leadership, and I thought you might learn something from them too. Enjoy.

1. If there are problems that need dealing with, you can deal with them now or deal with them later. Problems left until later have a tendency to grow into bigger problems. You choose.
2. In the absence of information, people will come to their own conclusions, and sometimes those conclusions are the conclusions we wish they didn’t come to.
3. Pour yourself into your best people. Give some of yourself to the rest but only your best to the best.
4. When faced with relational conflict, or any frustration with a leader, begin by asking yourself, “Is there any way in which I have contributed to the problem?”
5. The test of our spiritual maturity is seen in how we handle the boring, unexciting, monotonous routines of life.
6. We must become comfortable with having uncomfortable conversations with people.
7. We all make mistakes. When your mistake affects someone else, admit to them you made a mistake. Don’t beat yourself up too much; it does very little good. Learn and move forward.
8. One of the jobs of a leader is to help those they lead to face reality.
9. Before you can think outside of the box you must understand what’s inside of the box … and why.
10. Whenever someone’s behavior is “out of character” that can mean something is going on with them that you don’t know about. Find out if that is true before you deal with the behavior.
11. The older you get, the less time you have to recover from mistakes. God designed us to get wiser as we get older. If you don’t get wiser, then all you get is older.
12. Don’t blindly believe everything the “experts” tell you, especially if they have a book to sell.