I want to live in a world where magic exists. I would love to attend a Church where miraculous things happen all the time.

Someone could attend, and the band would magically have music all picked out and ready every week without effort. The building would be clean, and the trash would be emptied without anyone having to spend hours working. The children would always have an entertaining and educational lesson that happened without any prep work. The grounds would stay nice, the building decorated, and every maintenance issue would handle itself. A place where classes are taught and small groups are formed without effort from anyone.

But alas, no such place exists. There is no magic Church house. There are only Churches where individuals step up and do their part for the good of everyone.

Each of us can approach the community of faith as a consumer who is there to use and doesn’t care how it happens. Or we could come to it as a servant who is there to make it happen for others. There is no magic, but there are people who serve, and the results are magical.

These are defined as “unconscious resources used to decrease internal stress.” People often devise mechanisms to reduce conflict within themselves. I read articles stating that people use anywhere between five and twenty different ones. While no one agrees on the exact number, everyone understands that these are deep-seated patterns of behavior that each of us uses to handle the uncomfortable issues of life.

The message of the gospel is that you can put down your defenses because everything is handled in Jesus. You need not feel shame, insecurity, denial, or a reason to rationalize. There is no need to repress feelings or project them onto someone else. 

Jesus Christ died so that you might live in grace and forgiveness. As a result, you can let go of whatever bad was done to you and find peace. Not only that, but you can also move beyond your poor decisions, awful mistakes, and emotional failures. 

Most people’s natural inclination is to fight against people getting into the darkest parts of their lives. We try to keep our arms up and people at a distance. God wants to walk into our lives and embrace us with his amazing love.

Believe me, I know it is easier to say or write this than to live it. In Jesus, you can put down your defenses and find peace with God and within yourself. With him, there is no need to defend yourself any longer. 

My wife and I have spent the last few years trying to rid ourselves of the junk that clutters our house. This project started when my youngest boy went off to college. At about that same time, my older boys moved out on their own after college, and one even bought a house.

That set-in motion this project to get rid of all the stuff we collected over their lives. Each of them has tubs of school memorabilia. Posters, pictures, and trophies easily fill up several tubs. Through the years, the school encouraged them to buy more and more items with the year printed on them. And now, none of them want any of it. 

Then there are all the remnants of childhood. Toys that once seemed so important now collect dust. Possessions once viewed as a prize are now worthless trinkets that fill more tubs. And again, the boys do not want to take any junk out of my house.

To make matters worth it, almost all of it is worthless. They all have personal elements. Names, years, and photos attached make them have little value to anyone else. A few items could go online to sell, but I might make only a few dollars for the effort.

Most of the stuff that my money went toward is now dusty, trash, and random junk. 

It is the Christmas season, and there will be a lot of pressure on you to buy more stuff for your children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and the neighbor child. My suggestion is that you invest in things that will last. Three things are worth your money. One is giving to the needs of others. Find a way to bless the life of someone who truly needs help. The second is to give to the work of the kingdom of God. Find a missionary or support some ministry that is making a difference for Jesus. The third is to invest in experiences. Do something together with your family before you buy an item. 

You will spend your hard-earned money this holiday season, so be sure you are investing in good things and not just collecting more piles of junk.  

It is defined as the ability to adjust to new conditions.

This is the single most significant trait that Christians need to develop.

Churches and their leaders need it in their methodology. When things like Covid hit, they need the ability to change what they are doing and embrace new possibilities. The conditions in which they do ministry are ever-changing, and they need to be able to adjust their ministry.

Christians need this in their life as well. Life is constantly changing. The season of children’s development, family and work issues, health problems, and the number of activities is never constant. To develop a deep spiritual life, they must continually adapt how, when, and where they connect with God. Some seasons may allow for extended periods of quiet time with God, while others may consist of ten minutes here and there.

When someone sets out on their journey with God, it is easy to envision a consistent and routine life. Unfortunately, it seldom works that way. The key is adaptability; those who lack it die when the tides change.

The man in the commercial said, “I always give my clients 110%.”

His expression is a figure of speech called an idiom. Coaches or bosses most frequently use it to inspire people to give their very best toward a goal. They want to see people giving more than they thought possible to achieve the desired outcome.

Honestly, I do not doubt the man works hard, but I hope he is not giving 110% to his career. I hope he is using some energy to build relationships with people. He needs to be investing time in his family and friends. Relationships are far more important. 

I especially hope he is investing in his spiritual life. At the end of his life, it will not matter how successful he was in his business or how much money he made. Jesus asked, “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?” 

Nothing in this life deserves 110% effort. 

It is a good thing to work hard. But save your greatest effort for loving God and loving people. Those are genuinely worth your time and energy. 

Everyone wants something different when they attend a gathering of Christians.

Some people want to be taught. They want quality preaching and teaching with depth. They want classes that explain the Bible. Offer anything where scripture is taught, and they will be present.

Other people are looking for community. They want small groups where people are allowed to talk. Pot-luck meals, retreats, fellowship time, and conversation will make these people happy.

Still, other people are seeking quality worship. They want to feel the music wash over their soul with quality musicians, vocals, and arrangements each week. A night of hymns, praise, and choruses will fill their souls like nothing else.

And there are still others seeking child development or help with their parenting. Some want ministry for Jr. High students or their teenagers. Another group is looking for a place to serve. Maybe they even have a particular ministry in mind. Others think the Church should offer men’s or women’s groups. Finally, some want the Church to be all about prayer or missions or discipleship.

The list could go on and on.

Ask yourself what you want your Church to be and do.

And that is why it is challenging to be a Church leader.

It is impossible to make everyone happy. Therefore, a leader can only strive to serve God to the best of their ability, with the gifts God has given them, and pray that some people are blessed along the way.

Recently I did something kind for someone. I served selflessly and maintained the attitude of Christ. 

Also, I did not take any pictures. There were no selfies or hashtags. Nothing was posted on social media in any form. I did not even tell my family. The only one who saw it was God.

So why am I telling you this, then? 

Because I want you to know that it can still be done. You can still do good things with the heart of Jesus in the modern age.

Now it’s your turn to try it.

Psychologists explain that each person has three primary spaces of their life.

First is their family and home life.

Second is their work life.

Then there is a third space.

This is how we spend time when we are not sleeping, working, or with our family. Numerous things can fill this last space. It can be our hobbies that we enjoy, a civic group in which we are involved, or the local Church. We can spend our time alone reading, at a bar with a group of strangers, or enjoying the company of friends. 

Here is the interesting thing, whatever fills your third space will impact how you handle the other two places.

Take careful notice of what fills your free time. It is either making your life better or worse in other significant areas. Sure, you can find a new career and even make a family with someone else, but the easiest way to improve your life is to change your third space. 

One of the primary things I tell people is that their life has infinite value and worth in God’s eyes. This is because they were created in God’s image; he formed them in their mother’s womb, sent his son to redeem them, loves them, and is working to bring about the best outcome for their life.

There are numerous reasons I tell people this concept repeatedly.

Some people come from a bad home life where they were told or at least made to feel as if their life had no value. Also, as people grow up, they make mistakes, and it is easy to feel their life lost value from their actions. Still, others do not fit a cultural mold of how they should look or behave, and self-worth plummets. Finally, as people become more isolated, their feelings of inadequacy increase, and their self-image declines. 

One lesson I am learning over the past few years is that it is not only essential for people to understand Godly self-worth for their own sake, but it is also necessary for their relationships. What they believe about themselves impacts every person to whom they are connected. Their self-image affects their relationship with their spouse and children more than they understand. How they relate to their parents, siblings, and coworkers is directly connected to how they view themselves. 

The Christian faith keeps people rooted in the reality that they are God’s children. He created and loves them, and nothing in this world can change that truth, despite their momentary feelings.

You and I both need to have our worth connected to God for our own sake and for the sake of the people we love. 

Reaching out to another person does not seem like a good work.

Until you have felt alone.

When you have felt the pain of isolation and loneliness, and then someone reaches out to you, it is life-giving. A text to ask how you are doing can open a window into your soul. A call where someone shows interest in you can fill your heart with gladness. A visit from someone shows you that your life matters to others.

We often underestimate the simplest of actions that connect us with other people. We do until we have been on the other side, and then we understand the weight of human contact.

Your attempt to connect with someone could be blown off and appear meaningless to some; it could also be a ray of light into a dark world for others.